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My boyfriend asked me if we could try a new sex position.. He wanted to try anal. I said sure... It hurt really bad and i told him to stop. We tried it about a month later n it didnt hurt as bad but now it hurts whenever we try.. Is this normal? What should i tel him if i find it repulsive as well?
Anal sex is not for everyone. Some people can't relax enough for smooth penetration of the penis. Make sure you are also using a lot of lubrication.
Anal sex should NOT hurt. Use a lot of lube and if you can't relax dont DO IT, you can hurt yourself pretty bad if you force this.
Done right its wonderful though.
Anal isn't for everybody, and yes, it generally hurts, which is typically why most people who like it really like it. Even so, it shouldn't hurt so much that your opinion afterwards is totally negative: it should hurt just enough to make ya like it. :)
Look online for information to make anal sex more pleasant. This forum board, imo, isn't the place for too much detail, but here's a few quick suggestions: Use LOTS of lube, and to go VERY slowly, and only a little bit at a time until your comfort level increases. Also, smaller toys used at other times may help increase your comfort level, and you might even like them when used during oral and/or vaginal sex. Also, VERY important, learn to relax... if you're nervous or anxious, you'll tighten up, and that makes it harder for him and worse for you.
If you find it repulsive, I think the thing to tell him is that you find it repulsive, and that you'd rather not do it, but you will when he NEEDS it (not *wants* it), as long as it's not too frequent. I realize I'm asking to get flamed on this, but I truly believe that lovemaking is about two people trying to please each other, and there will be things that he won't like that he'll sometimes have to do for you, and vice versa. I think that's normal and healthy in a relationship. That said, he should respect you (as you respect him) and only ask you to fufill the needs you don't like only when he truly needs (not wants) them.