Is it normal to have an online relationship?

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I've known him for over 3 years now as a very close friend, we've always been there for each other when everyone else left. But 6 months ago we both confessed how we really felt. We didn't mean to start anything then, after all, I didn't think an online/long distance relationship would ever have worked; we were just trying to be truthful with one another. But it was inevitable really.. We just ended up growing closer and closer.

We talk everyday, video-chat, send letters to each other, and we're planning to meet finally in just a few weeks. I've met his parents, he's met mine. Sure, we've had a few arguments every now and again but somehow they just end up making us stronger every time.

I love him, he loves me. There's no doubt about any of that. And there's no doubt in me that this is going to work. We've already got plans for the near future, and it's looking really bright.

I just wondered in this day and age, if online relationships like this are really so rare?

I know a while ago, something like that would've been outrageous. But does it still seem mad? Or is this kind of thing just.. normal now?

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Based on 47 votes (30 yes)

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anti-hero

10 years ago

As long as you are both happy, it is perfectly fine.

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(s)aint

10 years ago

It's normal I guess, but just a shallow replica of the real thing.
Unless there's a chance for you guys to meet up on a regular basis I really don't see a point in it.

There's so many people that has fallen in love with a lie through the internet ...

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Ms.Caffinated

10 years ago

This is actually how i met my husband :P I got to learn alot about him before we were even interested each other, We used to vent to each other and generally make each other feel better without having that anxiety of OMG he's staring at me!! Lol it was a total friendship thing because we didn't think we'd actually meet. Than he came back to AZ and we were like, "Dude! We HAVE to chill!". The rest is history lol

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- Paradiddle
  
  10 years ago
  
  So jealous, its great to hear that worked out for you like that. If I end up with your story later in life then I'd be golden.
  
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Paradiddle

10 years ago

I believe this is normal because I have had this happen to myself. Feelings are not a decision, it just happens. When it does, you don't think "This is fake, I'm just going to ignore these feelings", you just want to be with that person. If you've ever liked anyone, you'd know that feelings are never a lie and while you can say online relationships are silly, don't forget that people online are still people and therefore can be liked, the fact that someone is online does not make it impossible to develop feelings.

Now the clear disadvantage of distance and lack of touch is there. That has always been an unfortunate part for me and everything is near doomed if its impossible to meet. But my point is, I believe this is normal not only because it has happened to me but feelings are real. But I don't trust online dating sites, places where people gather to be the most vulnerable are the easiest prey, I've met my interests through online gaming which I know are like minded people.

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shuggy-chan

10 years ago

questions #1, your ages, #2 the distance, #3 hope for the best, but expect the worst.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  We're both 18, he lives about 150 miles (2 and a half hours) away.
  
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  - shuggy-chan
    
    10 years ago
    
    what about college? what are each plans for after highschool. and that not horrible, but just don't be surprised if the distance eventually drags down the relationship
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      10 years ago
      
      We both finish college this year. He's working on something at home right now- he's done a few trial runs and he hopes to turn it into a little home business to generate income once he's left college. I on the other hand have plans to go to uni and get a part time job. We're going to spend about a year still living at home, kind of just setting ourselves up. Then he has plans to move over to where I live. He's going to stay with me for a bit, while we look around, and we're eventually hoping to rent a small flat together. c:
      
      Course this is all based on everything going to plan. But we'll figure it out. <3
      
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Visitor

10 years ago

It's becoming more normal every day. I have met people off the computer as friends and smoke buddies some years ago and they have all turned out to be crazy and weird.

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Psoriano

10 years ago

Online relationships are bullshit, but you don't realize that until you have an actual relationship.

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DiamondGirl

10 years ago

No it's not normal, no face to face, no bling and hot sex! Your foolin yourself. Go to the bus stop and pick up a hot Spanish dude. aaaaaaaaaaaaah!

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MIssingBacon

10 years ago

I guess it's normal nowadays. Not my thing though.

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thegypsysailor

10 years ago

I find it odd that in 3 years you all couldn't manage to at least meet once. 150 miles isn't anything, as you said; about 6 hours.
I wish you the best of luck, but I have little faith that this will be a lasting relationship.
Sorry.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  In 3 years we never intended for any of this to happen. It was entirely online and we didn't even consider meeting up because there was no need at the time. But thing's have changed, we've got closer and closer and now thing's are on a completely different level.
  
  I appreciate your opinion. I do have a lot of hope for this though, I have to say. I'll post here again in a couple of months and give an update about how the first meeting went! :>
  
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  - dom180
    
    10 years ago
    
    Please do post an update, it would be lovely to hear! I'll check back, so you know at least one person will see :)
    
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    - SweetPeaa
      
      10 years ago
      
      (Original post creator here!) Forgot my old account so having to use this one instead now! But just as an update; we met and it was AMAZING. No nasty surprises, just us, together finally for a whole week! And it was exactly how I had imaged it would be- just like online, only we could actually touch each other instead of having to type everything out. Trouble is that after meeting once you end up missing one another even more! That constant yearning to be close is more powerful than ever. We're meeting again in a couple of weeks for 10 days, and we plan to do so at least once a month until we can arrange something better.
      
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      - dom180
        
        10 years ago
        
        That's so great! :D I'm really glad it worked out well for you. Long distance relationships can be difficult because traveling long distances frequently can be stressful and the distance presents one extra barrier to commitment, but it's easier now than ever thanks to the internet and you sound like you're in love. Good luck to you :)
        
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        10 years ago
        
        Just to confirm, that WAS me and not an impostor lmao. Just got the email and found my original account again! :p
        
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peterr

10 years ago

Can't get pregnant online either.

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