Is it normal to have all your emotions governed by one person

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does anyone else feel practically bipolar at times in terms of happiness and sadness depending on one person's interaction with them.

you hear from the person, so completely happy, they dont respond to a text it means everyone hates you.

im getting the feeling a friend of mine is ignoring me. its a long story, but ive sent some texts maybe 3, a few weeks apart, just wondering if they want to hang out, like we used to and nothing at all.

i cant get over thinking about it, its sh*t.
do i call them even though they probably wont answer, do i leave it and try to speak to them the next time i see them (though i will probably just get drunk and emotional).

its such a mess. i feel like ive lost a great friend.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    i don't know if it's normal, but i've sort of felt the same way before. like, if i like someone, i feel really happy when i talk to him. but if i feel like he's ignoring me, it makes me really sad. but you'll get over it eventually. maybe this person will talk to you again. if he/she doesn't want to, it's his/her loss.

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  • smbdy09
    14 years ago

    It will pass.
    This has happened to me, too, and in the end of each little bout everything ends up kind of working itself out anyway.
    Simply don't make contact. Don't meddle, don't check, don't do anything, and you will feel better because that person will not have determined your current state. If you practice this, you will find you can enjoy your friendships a lot more since you don't feel governed by them.
    In the past I've just brought it up casually (and in a non-hostile way) face-to-face. By then, my feelings aren't involved and the friend is less likely to do it again if he cares about what you say.

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  • ReaperAJ
    14 years ago

    No, it isn't normal. You are suffering with emotional dependency. I did a quick google of this subject and since I'm in a rush I don't have time right now to further research this. The site I found describes it but it seems from a Christian point of view. I'm atheist, so I'm not too happy with this result. However, just read through it, it might give you some insight to your situation. You can then further google it if you like. I just want to add that I went through this with my husband some years back where if he was happy I was happy, if he was angry I felt down, whether I was the reason behind his feelings or not. We were going through a very bad patch in our marriage and ended up in counseling and this problem came up. I was horrified to find out what the psychologist said about it, but once I realised he was actually right, it did improve. Prior to that I thought it was normal to let the people around you bring you down, but it actually isn't.

    Just take a look at the link I've provided and do some more reading up on this and decide for yourself. I doubt you're homosexual - this site uses latent homosexuality as a character study, but anyway, there still may be some relevent information contained within.

    Good luck with this. :)

    http://www.sloppynoodle.com/wp/emotional-dependency-a-threat-to-close-friendships-by-lori-thorkelson/

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  • Nikkka
    14 years ago

    Lol yea I feel like this sometimes like when Im talkin to somebody an they just stop talking all off a sudden or they say g2g and don't talk back to you for like 4 days it's like I keep checking if they txted me back every hour .. Lol so it's probably normal or you and me are messed up :)

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