Is it normal to have a platonic crush on same sex friend? i'm straight

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I'm 26, female. I have always considered myself straight, felt physical attraction towards guys, wanted to have romantic relationships only with men, have a boyfriend right now, etc.
But now, for a few months, I've been getting a really strange feeling for a new female friend. It's like I think she's the cutest and most lovable-hugable thing on earth. I enjoy talking to her, being around her, feel curious about every aspect of her life, think about her during the day. I feel some sort of fascination with her as if she was one of the female protagonists of the novels I write.
But I don't want to have any more than friendship (she has a boyfriend too, and I find it so cute rather than feeling jealous. I want to befriend her and know everything about ver love life and the men she likes). Neither I want to kiss her (I find the idea just laughable and absurd). Still I like it a bit if she physically contacts me in a friendly way, I find it tender and I feel comfortable with it?
All this feelings I get are really different to the ones I get when I like a guy (find him hot, want him to notice me and get jealous of the girls that actually get him).
Does someone else feel this way? Am I a weirdo? Does it look like I'm actually bi?

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    You sound like friends. If you don't wabt to have sex with her, or any other woman, your not gay. The 'secretly bi' boogimonster has not reached you yet.

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    • Zoey64
      4 years ago

      It could also be biromantic, which means you're not sexually into both sexes (whichever you choose) but you're romantically into both sexes.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        4 years ago

        The thing is, what's the definition of romantic?

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      • Doesnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        But how does one seperate romance from sex so easily. How many people have romantic relationships with sex playing zero role? I certainly haven't heard of it.

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        • Zoey64
          4 years ago

          -asexuals
          -aromantics
          -people that have trauma

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          • Doesnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            Asexuals are super extremely rare and most people who think they are aren't. And aromatics don't have romance. Trauma is possible I suppose but also very rarely has that exact effect.

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  • paramore93
    4 years ago

    Sounds like the start of a great friendship!

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    4 years ago

    You're not sexually attracted to her, so no, you're not bi for her. Don't worry about it so much. XD

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  • raqeeb
    4 years ago

    i think you are confused, go on do whatever you want to do with her. But one day you find that she don't have all my needs, so then you will realize that a woman needs man in love related to physical contact.

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