Is it normal to have a mother like this?

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So heres the thing. I am a 26 year old female and every since I could remember ive always had serious issues with my mom. Not just me but pretty much everybody else in my family has.
Ever since I was a little girl, everything that ive done and accomplished she has done a great deal of verbally tearing me down. If I wanted to go along with a certain job I picked out she would advise me to go along with a job she had in mind, if I choose a certain class in school it would have to be the one she chose. If I liked a certain outfit it would have to be the one she likes. I could never wear my hair long she would chop it off.

She had and still has calls me many names, such as a piece of shit, good for nothing or a dumb whore... im just sick of all this mental abuse. When I was A kid she would hit my dad, and me and my sister, she doesnt exactly do it now cuz im old enough, but she also calls my dad names and tells him what to do and he obeys her. Never once has he stood up for me .

So, like I said I am just sick of it and I really want nothing to do with her. I have a 2 yr old daughter and shes called me horrible names in front of her. I love my grandma, my moms mom, she agrees that my mom needs help, she is the sweetest and has ask always supported me..but she feels like I shouldnt keep my daughter away from her grandma, my mom.
Would avoiding her be normal? What would you do?

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Based on 114 votes (37 yes)
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  • LAgirl427
    11 years ago

    Kill her

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  • hotmessxx
    11 years ago

    My fathers the same way and I told him I was done with him unless he got help. We no longer talk. I guess some people never change

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  • lisalyn
    12 years ago

    Slap her in the face once Real hard

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  • sixsix
    13 years ago

    Your mother sounds like an incredibly toxic personality. If her own parents are normal, as it sounds, it could also be that she is mentally ill.

    It is perfectly ok to cut her out of your life. But tell her why first, so she has some chance of seeing the problem and getting some help.

    Good luck. :)

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  • Listen
    13 years ago

    If it's really that bad, exclude her from your life.
    It's never just your mother, it's the type of mother she is.

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  • SillyKitty55
    13 years ago

    your in the same shit situation my best friend is in. she cutt her mom out of her life.
    now i don't know if you live with her or not. but if you do then you need to sit her down calmly and tell her you need to talk to her. and if you tell her to stay calm and that if she raises her voice once your gonna walk away from her and never speak to her again.
    just ignore her when it comes down to it. my mother and father are the same way to me, but i ignore it. i usually tell my dad what he wants to hear and i never do what he demands me to do. my mother pah!
    i won't get started on her at all.
    i walk away from her all the time. i relaly don't talk to either of them really.
    my brother stands up for me to them occasionally he tells them you are the stupidist people on earth. and the most retarded parents on earth.
    your mother will never change her ways. only you can change yourself for the bettter or for the best. ignore her. and if she keeps yelling close your door. and just ignore her.
    i tell my daughter to keep it down or gpa will scream at us for being up late and eating late. she knows this and she keeps her volume down.

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  • wendyw
    13 years ago

    in my experience, people like your mom is very hard to change or to talk to. they will see that they are always right or if they admit that they're wrong, they'll just shrug, say sorry and leave you in peace for a week and then the cycle starts again. if will be very hard to talk them into adjusting unless they feel like it. at her stage, i don't know if its possible.

    you are a mom now, so you have to think of your daughter. staying away doesn't mean you will be staying away forever.

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  • lululu
    13 years ago

    i think you should make a family reunion and talk to your mother about her behaviour. she cannot call you " dumb whore"! if i were you, i 'd shout her all the pain you went through because of her. you have been enough patience...now it's time to react. how was your mother's childhood? she has always tried to manage your life maybe because she's not satisfied of her own life. i 'm not a psycologist so i cannot know the reason why she behaves this way... i'm sure you and your sister love her. you should convince her to get some help or it will get worse.

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