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im female, i have a very hard time reaching orgasm. clit play does nothing for me, its as pleasurable as touching any other part of my body.
Unless you have very unusual physiology or you're on drugs that have a deadening effect on your nervous system, there should be something going on somewhere.
Men are generally pretty mechanical and predictable in their sexual response, but women are trickier, and what's going on your head has a huge impact on your enjoyment of sexual stimulation. As a guy, I can't speak from personal experience, but I know that many women have difficulty reaching orgasm even if there's consistent stimulation of the clitoris for quite a while. Supposedly, the average time for a woman to reach orgasm from a cold start is something like twenty minutes. Some women are faster, some slower, but there's no such thing as a "wrong" sexual response. However, if this is causing you anxiety or annoyance, then perhaps you should spend some time investigating credible women-friendly websites where concerns such as yours are discussed.
One final thought: for some women, what really trips their trigger is breast stimulation, penetration or anal play. You might also consider mechanical assistance.
unfortunately, this is a very common problem among women. A larger percent of adult women have actually never had an orgasm or have extreme troubles reaching orgasm. About the only advice I can offer is for you to find a therapist that deals in these types of issues and discuss it. Best of luck to you.