Is it normal to have a hard time figuring out your sexuality?

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My sexuality has been a life long struggle, of not being able to properly pinpoint it. A few months back, I came back to the possibility of being a lesbian. However, some things still weren't adding up but, at the time I was desperate for an answer so, I went with it despite, having difficulty with coming to terms with it.

Yesterday, I did some more extensive research and I found out that this whole time that I have actually been a Homoromantic Asexual. It means that I am romantically attracted to women but, I am not sexually attracted to them. And in typical Asexual fashion, in general, nor am I sexually attracted towards ANYTHING for that matter.

The signs were in my face this whole time but, yet, it just never occurred to me. Why is this?

Anyway, is it this normal?

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  • KeddersPrincess
    9 years ago

    I'm 21 years old. I just recently came to the conclusion that I might be a heteromantic asexual but, even still, I don't know. I just don't worry about it at this point.

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  • Shrunk
    9 years ago

    I'm 22 and I still don't know. I wouldn't really care, except that people keep telling me how important sex/romance is. I identify with something like 'panromantic demisexual' but that feels ridiculous to say. so I just go with "shy girl with very specific personality-standards"..? I guess :/

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I actually never had a problem figuring out my sexuality, it's pretty straightforward. All of this fancy panheterohomoromantic demiquartersensual asexual stuff is mind boggling and it's odd imaging living as someone with a complicated sexuality. It's something I cannot relate to.

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  • Riddler
    9 years ago

    Heres a list of all the ones I heard

    Pansexual:Love the person not the gender
    Bisexual/bicurious:like both genders
    Straight:Like a gender other than your own
    Homosexual:like your own gender
    Demisexual:Only feels sexual attraction if you have a strong emotional bond first
    Transgender:feel like you were born the wrong gender
    Transexual:Got a sex change to become other gender
    Metrosexual: Either performs gay acts but claims to be straight or else act very gay in mannerism or dress but is not gay. I heard it used in both ways. Some men have sex with other men but swear they are straight.
    Lesbiatant: When a female has relations with a female but since they only do it above the waist don't consider themselves full lesbians
    Asexual:No sexual attraction

    Also just because you like someones company's does not mean you want to be sexually/romantically involved with them. You can love your friend as a friend it does not mean its romantic. Also being very close to your best friend does not mean you are romantically involved.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    I'd say ...don't stress yourself out over this.

    You can either find someone like you, but that might be a bit difficult since sexual urges are so common.
    or, if you are confident enough- have an open relationship and be with someone for love and romance but let her have sex with others if she feels the urges for this.

    another solution could be for you to find someone with a low sex drive and then just pleasure her on the few occasions that she's even in the mood.

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