Is it normal to have a deep aversion/fear of people who like me?

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This might sound like a really strange question, but I'm 19, female and have never been in a relationship. Heck, I've never even been kissed. It's not that I don't get attention from guys - I do but I just sort of freeze/start panicking and push anyone remotely interested in me away. It's like I'm deathly afraid of them liking me, as though the mere idea of that is ridiculous! I'm also constantly aware that if I was in a relationship, people might make a big deal out of it, like 'awww, they're so cute' and the thought of that happening sickens me as I don't want to be seen that way. Even if I was going out with someone, the thought of telling my parents worries me, not because of them not approving, but the opposite. I'm worried they'll be fawning over me, and I find that repulsive.
Basically, I just get incredibly uncomfortable when a guy seems to be into me, to the point where it causes me stress. Is this normal?

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  • derker
    12 years ago

    I like various cured meats. I'm thinking I may partake in some cured meats right now.

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  • valasity
    12 years ago

    I'm in the same situation, but feel differently. This may be hard to believe but I'm
    19 and I'd say pretty cute and fit from sports. I've never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. I've been waiting for the perfect girl. Even after I find the perfect girl she has to like me back as more than a friend, which hasn't happened... yet. I'm the nicest guy I know and hope some day I will find love.

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  • ymii
    12 years ago

    i am exactly the same. but at the same time...i get really attached to people that dont like me. it SUCKS

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  • Pisslan616
    12 years ago

    I feel the same way. On the very rare occasion that a girl actually shows any interest in me and I'm sure they are not just doing it for a joke (it has happens before) then I don't quite know how to react. I would like to date someone of course but something holds me back. I also can't quite believe that they actually want me or find me attractive.

    I am one of the few 18 year old guys that I know who hasn't even had a girlfriend yet and I sort of glumly accept the fact that my friends and family will be patronising as all hell when I eventually do start dating.

    'aww isn't it sweet his first kiss' fuck off!

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  • LovableHumans
    12 years ago

    It's normal. If someone likes you , you could probably like him too. Then there is a big chance to get disappointed afterwards. In all case any kind of relationship might hurt you. Fear is like defense mechanism. So, you have to be somehow prepared that some kind of disappointment could follow. Try act naturally and do not worry so much. People's opinion is important but you don't live for people, you live for yourself.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    I am sort of the same. The only time a girl has ever told me that she really liked me, I walked out on her. I regretted it straight away, but she's moved out now to God-knows-where. I know I'll never see her again, but I still worry sometimes if she's gotten over me or not. I'm more mature now though, I know that I wouldn't do that to anyone else again, but I still feel bad about it, even though we were both just kids. I wouldn't say that it's normal, more just a product of my social anxiety.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    You've got to
    Make am effort.

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