Is it normal to have a crush on younger guys?

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I've recently left sixth form in the UK (I am 18) but throughout my time I became increasingly concerned that I was attracted to boys much younger than me. I am a gay guy but I was attracted to lots of boys aged about 14 or 15. Of course I never would have done anything, but the thoughts drove me mad as I thought I was very scummy. Is it normal to be having fantasies about people much younger than yourself?

Also, as an aside my fantasies are often involving them having control over me. I don't know if this makes me even less normal?

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Often attraction to those much younger os a sign of insecurity.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    You're attracted to feminimity yet you lacked a strong father figure in your youth. End result is a gay guy, normal.

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    • kla631
      7 years ago

      Nonsense, many gay people have had strong father figures in their lives and many straights have had absent fathers.

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        I'd say we are both at fault for using the anecdotal logical fallacy, except we didn't even bother to provide examples. Really we just made statements.

        If I'm serious though, I think homosexuality is partly genetic and partly environmental. One of those environmental factors being the father's presence (or lack thereof). I overstated though just to be provocative.

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        • Dreamsao
          7 years ago

          Wow. So what made me a lesbian? Because I tried men and stuck with women. I have a strong mother figure. I live a normal life just like you.

          Another question. Who put you in charge to judge us?

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          • riffraffy
            7 years ago

            I am glad to have this conversation. Firstly, you can certainly be normal and be homosexual. Secondly, there is nothing wrong with being homosexual, though there is nothing good either: the inability to have a child with someone you love must be horrible.

            How is your relationship with your father? The father-daughter dynamic is not as often portrayed in media as father-son, but it is significantly important.

            I judge people for the same reason you judge whether or not a car is merging onto your lane while you're driving down the interstate. There is no particular reason, it's more instinctual—and we do so instantly and likely without conscious thought of what we are doing.

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  • Zieten
    7 years ago

    Mysistersshadow is correct. Have you ever heard the song Little Girls by Oingo Boingo? It's all about not wanting to have a relationship with someone your own age because you feel immature, or insecure about your position in life. Younger people won't want to have serious, deep discussions.

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