Is it normal to have a crush on same girl after 7 years?

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So, old classmate class of 2005 was working at a CVS pharmacy by my house 4 years ago. I saw her and recognized her face but she did not remember me at all. I don't blame her since we really never talked to each other in class and she sat on the other side of the room. Anyway I just went ahead and told her that her face looked familiar to me then went on and asked her if she went to x high school. She said yes then I mentioned that we were in the same physics class with x teacher but she didn't remember. She kinda made a face expression like "that's weird" why should I remember someone I didn't talk to kinda thing. I was like whatever and left. I went back few more times afterwards to get some things I needed and I also wanted to see her again and one day she was gone. Left the job and I didn't she her again. That was around 2009. Then I just kinda forgot about her and let it go but few weeks ago I find her again working at a Hobby Lobby store that's by the school I go to. I pass by the store all the time and I can't help but to think about her. Anyway that day I found her there I was a little surprised and I was standing in line looking side ways and she was just staring at me when I turned around she quickly turned away and pretended she didn't see me. She didn't try to look at me again and I was like forget it she probably don't want to talk to me. She did recognize me this time after 3 years or so and I still seem to have feelings for her which is crazy and I hate feeling this way because in the back of my mind I just come with my own conclusion that she probably doesn't like me. I get a little blue and just want to go back and ask her out or something but I feel weird. so is it normal to have feelings for an old crush you never met before? Should I let it go or go back?

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  • Charle44
    11 years ago

    She's a pretty girl in her early 20's in retail. She probably gets hit on a lot. You can go back and try to strike up a conversation, but based on her reactions so far, the odds are low that anything's going to come of this.

    I'm guessing she's good-looking because you have such strong attachment to her even though you've never really spoken. It's normal to have feelings like that after all this time, because they're based on looks.

    It also sounds like you never got around to giving her an actual compliment in 2009 or this latest time. You remember her because she's hot. If you're going to say anything, say that. "I remember you from years ago" sounds creepy. "Everyone remembers the hot girl" is still a little creepy, but flattering. (Hot girls, please reply to this comment and let me know if I'm right about this.)

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    • okcomputer
      11 years ago

      Thanks for the advice. Well, she's average. I mean I kinda like her because of her personality and her looks. I remember her in class... She was the quite girl and I like that about her I don't know why.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Just based on her reactions from the first time seeing her in 2009 and chit chatting with her regarding some class she probably took and never thought about again YET you remembered the actual class, the professor, and the fact SHE was in the class with you probably creeped her out some.

    If she didnt go out of her way to talk to you or contact you in seeing her again recently at that store she probably hadnt thought of you once during the time period between now and 2009.

    In all honesty you probably have some romantic version in your head of how she is that is nothing like what the real person is at all. If its 7 yrs since HS and she is working at some mundane retail job that is a little telling to me.

    You should probably just let it go entirely, if you do run into her be polite but leave it at that, from the way the story reads it doesnt seem like you ever had an opening with this girl at all, BUT even if you did its probably long gone since you never pulled the trigger. Women dont want guys to pussy foot around, they want you to ask them out no matter whether they are going to say yes or no to you.

    The point being just move on.

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    • okcomputer
      11 years ago

      What do you think was running through her mind when she was looking at me ?

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Probably nothing in all honesty. But if I had to guess it may have been "oh no there's that weird guy who remembered everything down to the fine details of some class I took with him 5 yrs ago".

        If she isnt bothering to talk to you, gives one word answers to questions, or otherwise doesnt care at all what you are saying she has little interest in talking to you or getting to know you.

        Sorry its just the way it is.

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    7 years is a long time. You need to get out more and meet other people.

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  • Hoohahohyahhh
    11 years ago

    I'm sure this is not your only crush. Its probably just one of your old crushes and when you saw her all the feelings came rushing back. It's normal. However, if its the only girl you've been pining after for 7 years, there's a problem seeing as a normal crush lasts a couple months at most.

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    • okcomputer
      11 years ago

      Naw, had several other crushes since then. She was only one of 2 of my high school crushes that's why I kinda remembered her so well I guess. But I think I'm just going to leave her alone.

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