Is it normal to have a crush on my bfs brother?

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Before anyone start jumping on me, I love my bf and I will never cheat on him. But I do have a tiny crush on his brother. Why? Because he always tease me, we play fight, he's goofy and he's a great listener. I admire that I think because their have been time that my bf wouldn't undertsand arguements that his mom and I have with each other and his brother see's her for what she is.

I guess that made it easy for me to come to him about issues with their mom without him defending her and making me feel like I take things out of proportion. I just think that he's really cool and I am glad that his gf has a guy that learned to trust her opinions on their mom and what she went through.

My bf and I are progressing but it's still challenging..unlike my bfs brother he is straight forward and loyal when it come to their mom and her crazy sh**. FYI, we talked only once about an issue with their mom and it was a group conversation between me, him, his gf, and my bf. The mom was avoiding the convo.

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  • Unimportant
    11 years ago

    Do I smell a ménage à trois coming up?

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  • Foreverdecay
    11 years ago

    Its normal, but not good.

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    I think everyone gets a crush on a friend at least once. But you should be careful to make distinctions between friendly behavior, and borderline flirting/inappropriate behavior.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I think that you are falling in love with this man. It does not appear to be just a little crush. If you want your present relationship to work you should put some distances between him and you.

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  • kaki
    11 years ago

    ur bf is a mama's boy

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    This is slutty. I would elbow drop my girlfriend if she had a crush on my brother and would elbow drop my brother's girlfriend if she had a crush on me. I would finish them off with a figure four leg lock and a booger to the lips.

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  • --ash--
    11 years ago

    Be a spit roast for them!

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Your boyfriend and him are brothers, and no matter how different they seem there are similarities. It only makes sense that if one attracts you the other would too.

    Me and my brother have this issue because we are nearly identical, but luckily this has never been an issue because we would never do that to each other and wouldn't date the type of girl that would.

    But the bottom line is, your boyfriend is your priority, and his brother can be an amazing friend to you but that's all it should ever be.

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    Yes, it's normal to have a crush, especially if the other relative is more mature and sympathetic than your boyfriend. As long as you don't flirt heavily with the brother, then it's innocent, but maybe you should try to work on the issues in your relationship that are driving you away from your boyfriend and towards his brother. Without actually insulting their mother, keep telling your boyfriend how you feel about her behavior towards you. In time, he may see her for what she is.

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  • jocyjocy20
    11 years ago

    I keep distance of course and cut the joking short when it gets to personal. My bf hates it when his brother always compliment me but honestly I do not give him any reason to act that way towards me. When I first met him, he was playful and goofy.

    Maybe he acts this way with everyone? I do not think I' falling in love with him,he isn't my type and well we do have the same birthday lol So maybe being that he's a virgo like me, we understand each other. I assume that he's just a good friend and I'm fun as well.

    I've told my bf about how he act towards me and my bf is just in denial. He told me not talk about his brother at all. I'm like umm ok. Oh and we do not see his brother often so their is distance. Also, his gf is always with him so it makes things easier to build a borderline. We may see them about 3 times a month.

    Another thing I do know the difference between flirting and just playing. When he does flirt, I totally pretend that it didn't happen and change the subject.

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  • poohed
    11 years ago

    The fucking silly cunt should die.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    He's trying to steal you from your boyfriend.

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    • jocyjocy20
      11 years ago

      sometimes I wonder about that because his gf and her are always hating each other and well..he has an "history" with other females outside of his relationship. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Why not try things out with him? Just be straight up with your boyfriend about it though. Yeah he'll be pissed. Sooner or later though he'll man up and get over it.

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    • jocyjocy20
      11 years ago

      I don't want to try things out with him, I love my bf.

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