Is it normal to have a crush

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I've been with this guy for 3 years, since I was 14. I love him more then life, he's saved me from committing suicide, he helped me when my parents got divorced. He's an amazing person. Recently I went on an app to meet friends and a guy was really cool, I gave him my number and we've been talking for a week, he says he has really strong feelings for me, as I do him, I like him, he's my crush, but I don't think I could ever break up with my boyfriend for this guy...

I need help, what should I do?? :(

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Based on 62 votes (32 yes)
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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago | pl

    The first thing I don't understand is why you gave this guy your number if you were in a relationship. You aren't happy with your boyfriend?

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    • Terence_the_viking
      10 years ago

      Slutbag comes to mind.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You don't sound like much of a thinker, your boyfriend must be also this way inclined to share a relationship with you.

    Good luck.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    I think someone needs to take a shit in your bed.

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  • bamanthehippy
    10 years ago

    tell him to stop making advances towards you and about how much you love your bf

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  • Monkeybutts
    10 years ago

    Sound like ur just staying with ur boyfriend becuz he did all these nice things for u so now ur feeling guilty... Is ur new guy an internet friend? Nah don't leave ur boyfriend for an internet boyfriend. That is beyond crazy. I've internet dated before and so I know for a fact that is beyond crazy.

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  • Sacron1111
    10 years ago

    It's easy to have crush with someone long distance. You don't have to deal with real life. I do it, occasionally and like the feeling but I know it's just my own projection onto the person, not reality. Enjoy the crush. Just remember it's not real, it's you looking at yourself.

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  • _Molotov_Cocktail_
    10 years ago

    "If you are in love with two people, pick the first one. Incinerate the other with a Molotov cocktail."
    -Russian proberb

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    If your BF knew that you did this, I'm sure he would be very hurt. If you really do love him and respect his feelings, it shouldn't have even gotten to this point.

    This is definitely cheating.

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  • Thatguy777
    10 years ago

    Don't leave your boyfriend for a stupid crush that won't get you anywhere. And don't give out your number. I liked this girl and texted her all last summer before finding out she kinda had a bf that summer. It's a dick move to both guys, because she led me on by it, and she was talking to other guys while in a relationship. And that shit isn't cool.

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  • hagane_64
    10 years ago

    Firstly, you definitely shouldn't have given another guy your number if you were already in a relationship, as this was bound to cause you problems.

    I would recommend you ask yourself these questions: Why would I choose someone I like over someone I love? Why can I not break up with my current boyfriend?

    If you don't want to break up with your current boyfriend due to a sense of responsibility because of what he has done for you, then your kindness is misplaced and you should realize that if he saved you and helped you in the past, it wasn't for you to be with him, but because he wanted to, out of the kindness of his heart.

    Lastly, if it has only been a week that you've talked to this other person, make sure not to jump the gun... he may not be as worth it as you think. Talk it out with someone you trust, and if you can, with your boyfriend.

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  • Jeaneathean
    10 years ago

    You 'love him more than life'. Oh, really?

    That is not compatible with a 'crush' on another.

    In short, and to be harsh, it's make your mind up time.

    But you know that already, don't you?

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  • AraniaHale131
    10 years ago

    One: Don't give a guy your number if your in a relationship. Aren't you committed to him? If you truly love this guy then you wouldn't have a crush on this other guy but yes it is normal to feel that way. But I think you either need to break up with your boyfriend or tell him about this because what you are doing is considered cheating

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