Is it normal to have 2 kids at 18?

A friend of mine had 3 my 18 or 19. Another boy I knew had 2 by 14. A lot of kids I went to high school already had 2 kids or more. Believe me. You are NOT alone.

Hey there!

You know what?
I had twins at 18! They came as a little surprise, but they mean the world to me and my husband.
It's cool, if you're happy with it. I love my boys - they're 5 now! (I'm 24, my husband - their dad - is 25.
Good luck to you lady!

xx

When I first read the headline I thought its 2 kids from 2 different fathers while the mother don't know a thing about either one of them, but I must admit, I was wrong.
It does sound like you got it together and know what you're doing, you're independent, the kids got a father, you got a future husband, the responsibility of raising the kids don't fall on your parents, basically you just got it together before most women do, at the age of 30, sitting at a bar with their other female friends, complaining how every man is the same and that their biological clock is ticking. I think the reason so many people say its not normal is because now they expect you first to go to college, get a career, etc... what many don't understand is that some women want to be housewifes, take care of kids and their husbands, I've met many women like that. If a woman got a man who is working and bringing home a decent salary, no reason why an adult woman can't take care of two kids.

It's alright if you're responsible, emotionally mature and financially stable.
All seems to be going well here.

Well, it isn't "normal" to have two kids at eighteen, but you sound like you're doing well :}. Congrats!
I'll be twenty this year and I have a one year old and I feel kind of like you cuz he's the best thing that has EVER happened to me. I'm very happy.

I know quite a few people that did this, fast forward a few years and they are broken up and unhappy.

Your fine because your responsible. Most other young mothers still don't have their shit together but you are an exception. I'm proud of you :)

I am 18, and from your description, I actually kind of envy you. It's not every 18 year old that can say they are independent, have a fiancé, and 2 wonderful kids. Most of the rest of us are still struggling through school, wondering if they will ever leave home, get a job, and have their own family. So yes, rock on...you go girl!

Well you just said it. You are happy with what you have decided to do. I guess that is what matters the most. I believe the main reason why people think that having kids at an early age could ruin your life because teenagers might not be mature enough to handle a big responsibility like parenthood.

I am happy for you. Good luck!

You shouldn't say "we aren't dependant on anyone else", because you are very dependant on your fiance. What happens if you both split up? He'll get the kids since he has a more stable way of providing what they need...But then again, society would much rather give kids to a woman that doesn't work, has barely any education, and give them child benefits from the tax payers money than they would give kids to a "man" that is able to provide for his kids by himself.

The reason why you aren't finding it hard is because the father is providing for you and the family. If he wasn't there, how would you provide for yourself or your children other than child support from him?

You shouldn't of had kids at as young as fifteen. You should of gone to full time education and built a future for yourself in the way you would be able to provide for your kids incase your relationship ended, b ecause at the moment, your fiance is the reason you have an easy and fun life. Your fiance seems like a good man to take on responsibility at that age, but be warned, if his work life goes down, your life will go down.

You need to find a way to educate yourself. Try find someone to babysit, or drop them off at a family member's house if they let you, go to college, educate yourself, and that way you can pick your whole family up (including your fiance) if the worst happens.

Whatever, if you like it then who am I to judge? I'd personally never have kids younger than 40, because I kinda want to be happy and live my life, but if you're happy then it's perfectly normal.

Wow I'm 18 and can't imagine myself with kids yet. . .but YOU GO GIRL! i know this one chick who just had her 3rd child at 19. She dropped out of HS, and still lives with her mom. None of the fathers are helping with the kids and she don't even want to take care of them.Her mom does all the work. Which totally pisses me off >=[
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But you are an independent 18 year old with a guy who seems to love you and the kids. I definitely give you 2 a thumbs up. :) i think you two have a good head on your shoulders. And wish you guys the best!!! :)

No problem at all. You guys are making it work so that's fine. Don't forget to go out once in a while just the two of you so that you have time just for yourselves. Kids, as much as you love them, are hard work and you need to have fun too!

its western morality pushing that thinks its bad to have a child at a young age .... you sound like a very great mother and father team , ignore what people say ... you will still be young and pretty when you kids are in high-school and can enjoy a much richer life in the end.

Ewwww. A loud meow comes from my nostrils.

People say it will ruin your life if you have kids at a young age because most likey people can't handle a kid and their education but since you threw away the education part and have financial support to live life like you want its all fun and games for you. Granted raising children is hard as well imagine how hard it is for other 18 year old who have kids your age and are trying to proceed to college. You should go to college and become something more. I'm not trying to belittle any housewifes but edcation is one of those top priorities you need.

Totally normal! By the age of 30 you might have a little clan going.. and so you know, in ancient times this is how the families survived. Now, make sure you train a few strong males as hunters and females as gatherers. Later on, when the females will have their own offspring you can start training warriors and securing your autonomy. Just make sure you create a pagan pantheon with yourself and a godhead and ultimate matriarch of your tribe.

Trust me, I've learnt it all playing Civilization games!

Alright, alright.. thank you for putting up with my trolling, lol.
Seriously, I think it's a little early, but best of luck with your family! :)

you love your kids and that's normal

however what people tell you isn't wrong.

1) The female uterus doesn't stop growing until a woman's in her early to mid 20s. So if you get pregnant earlier you risk having a premature birth simply because there's not enough room for the baby to grow

2) Not many people at age 18 have the finances in place to support children.

It may bother you when people say this but... you have to understand that it is true. You may be an exception but that doesn't mean it's the right decision for everyone else

wow when I was 18, I felt like a little kid still...plus isn't 18 too young to be able to get a good and stable job to support a wife and two kids? If you're happy then that's good but you need to think about the living conditions they will grow up in, unless you own that house and it's nice. Other people wait because they want stability and security