Is it normal to have 3 friends with benefits?

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Hello everyone! :3

I am a 19 year old girl who just moved away from home 6 weeks ago to study at the university. (Yay)

I have had a few boyfriends in the past, but only slept with one of them. I have always been a bit of a pervert and I was really looking forward to moving away from home to find 1 (note 1) boy to have a physical relationship with.

I am currently not interested in any form of serious relationship, as I am studying abroad. My intention is just to have fun for now and get a serious relationship when I get home.

When looking for a place to rent, I purposely chose one large apartment with 3 male students already in it. We split the rent on 4. My intention was to get close to 1 and have a lot of fun with him. Having 3 guys under the same room meant that I would have a few to select on xD.

After 2 weeks, I started having sex with one of them, and oh my, it was exactly what I had dreamt of.

However, it didn't take more than a few days before one of the other guys found out our secret and told the 3rd guy. This was when I confessed to all of them why I chose to rent a room from them.

They quickly hooked on and asked if I would mind if they too dropped by my room.

Ever since that day, I have had sex with all 3 of them on daily basis (and I'm loving it :p ). They drop by my room one by one (never more than 1 at a time) and I sure am enjoying the quality time (times 3).

I do however have doubts if this is morally correct?

I am enjoying my life like never before. I am currently living my dream and going nuts while I can before I settle down. I am also perfectly fine with the amount of sex, as I obviously have an extremely high drive.

The only problem is that I also have a constant feeling of guilt for screwing 3 guys on daily basis (it's hard to explain).

This is why I am now reaching out to you, my dear friends. :3

I want to know your opinions about this. Is it normal these days? Is it morally correct?

I want to keep living my dream, but I need to put the guilt aside.

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Based on 14 votes (8 yes)

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rayb12

6 years ago

Can you write something interesting

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Kevinevan

6 years ago

Sounds a bit boring. You should be out exploring the world and all the dicks in it. Why waste time with just three at home when you could screw a new guy every night?

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Boojum

6 years ago

If you're keeping it safe, and you all want to do what you're doing, why not?

Like SmokeEverything says, why only one at a time? You're all at university, so get to getting educated.

Only slightly dubious point might be whether any members (yuk, yuk) of your male harem are involved with other girls. On the one hand, you're not their morals cop, on the other, this could potentially lead to slightly awkward scenes with hurt girlfriends shrieking, "Slut! Whore! Bitch!" at you.

Have fun.

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- C0TT0N
  
  6 years ago
  
  Hey :3
  
  Thank you very much for your reply! :3 :D *Hugs*
  
  Absolutely, it is definately a good point to communicate the issue about other girls to them.
  
  I really don't want to get blamed for breaking someone's heart. :O
  
  About the more than 1 guy at a time question: I am still fairly new to sex, so I do not feel ready to take on all 3 at once. My experience is 1 boyfriend a few years ago that I slept with 6 times total + a few weeks with these guys. I will eventually try it in the near future though (if the guys are up for it).
  
  Thanks again for your reply. It dampened the guilt feelings significantly :D
  
  *Hugs*
  /C
  
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  - Boojum
    
    6 years ago
    
    I wouldn't suggest you leap straight into a foursome. You should also ignore the trolls about gay sex between the guys. Considering what you're already doing, the natural progression would be a MFM threesome.
    
    You need to approach even that with caution, and not only because of your inexperience. Some guys feel awkward about MFM threesomes. Some guys even believe that touching another naked guy - or even being in the same room as one - will turn them gay. (It won't, of course. Being gay is about being sexually attracted to another man, and you're the focus of attention in this case.)
    
    And don't think that MFM necessarily involves simultaneous vaginal and anal intercourse. There are lots of other things one woman and two guys can do - assuming the guys are comfortable with limited, non-sexual contact.
    
    Be safe, take it slow, and keep it fun.
    
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    - C0TT0N
      
      6 years ago
      
      Hey :3
      
      I greatly appreciate your excellent advice :D
      
      I agree that having 3 guys on me at once would be terrible, eww. My imagination of a foursome would be that the guys kind of take turns while the other 2 watch/touch.
      
      I think that I would actually like having 3 guys take turns on me while the other 2 watch, but I agree, a foursome is a bit far fetched for now. :D
      
      The MFM suggestion is definitely the best route before trying out a foursome. In either case, I would like the guys to calmly take turns and not go all at once xD
      
      I do not think that I will ever try anal. It does not sound enjoyable. ;)
      
      *Hugs*
      /C
      
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      - Boojum
        
        6 years ago
        
        As a man, the idea of anal sex - giving or receiving - has never done much for me. I'm pretty sure I tried it once with a woman many years ago, but the fact that I'm not totally certain indicates how little it rocked my boat. I wouldn't have run screaming from the room if a woman had ever suggested I receive it, but it's not something that's ever come up.
        
        Having said that, some women are seriously into anal, so you might consider asking for a little gentle manual anal play, and see if that does anything for you.
        
        You may find you just can't get into it, and that's fine. Your sexual partners should respect that. But there are a lot of nerves around the anus that can give very pleasurable sensations, so there are definitely erotic possibilities.
        
        From what I've heard, lots of lube is the most important thing. The anus doesn't self-lubricate like the vagina, and you don't want friction-burns on your butthole.
        
        Saliva or vaginal secretions can be used if it's just a finger (short fingernails are also important) and that's sometimes sufficient for a penis if the woman is used to it, but lube and taking it slow the first time is important.
        
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SmokeEverything

6 years ago

Why do you only want to have sex with one person at a time?

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- C0TT0N
  
  6 years ago
  
  It is not quality time of more than one is on me at a time ^(>.<)^
  
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  - Kevinevan
    
    6 years ago
    
    You have 3 holes sweety, you should use all of them at the same time.
    
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  - SmokeEverything
    
    6 years ago
    
    Group sex is fun. You should try to get your roommates to do gay stuff and it would be a full on orgy every day.
    
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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

I just find it funny you choose to have a life where you fuck multiple men daily and then just assume you can go home and have a perfect and respectable serious relationship with a quality man.

Christ who has the time to fuck 3 times a day? Pick up a hobby or something useful, donate your time, volunteer, the icecaps are melting and the rhinos are dying quit sucking dick and be productive.

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- Boojum
  
  6 years ago
  
  What's wrong with sex as a hobby? It appears you have opinions about it being "wrong" for a woman to be non-monogamous, but why is it wrong? Having sex as a hobby seems to me more positive than, for example, shooting living creatures, burning hydrocarbons in some mechanical contraption, hitting people, and lots of other activities that people do to pass the time.
  
  Not sure what sex has to do with icecaps, since I think sex is generally pretty much a carbon-neutral activity. Likewise, I don't think the OP abstaining from sex is going to save any rhinos.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    6 years ago
    
    It’s just an awful hobby, and I have no double standard, I’m intersex and don’t have sex at all, so I don’t care that she’s a woman or a man acting this way. Just seems so wasteful, not contributing to anything.
    
    There’s so many things she could be putting her time towards, PETA, SPCA, WWF, Nature Conservancy, TreeHugger Sierra Club, GreenPeace, etc.
    
    She has the money, time, and means to travel and help, spending three hours a day whoring around is selfish. She says she feels guilty, and she should.
    
    And she’s delusional if she thinks any person, male or female, would see her as a prime candidate for a serious relationship. She’s a sex addict.
    
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    - Boojum
      
      6 years ago
      
      There's debate in the psychiatric profession about whether sex addiction is a real condition. As far as I know, it doesn't appear in the official list of psychiatric diagnoses. It certainly is a card people play when they're caught behaving in ways that others find objectionable: "Hey! I wasn't screwing around because I'm a douchebag! I'm addicted to sex! I'm a victim!" There are also a lot of therapists making a very good living out of telling people they are sex addicts, so they have an interest in saying it's real.
      
      When you say what the OP is doing is "awful", you are merely expressing your opinion. I think broccoli tastes disgusting, but that's just my personal preference. I think football is a stupid thing to be obsessed with, but that's just my personal opinion. Neither broccoli nor football is evil or wrong in any meaningful way.
      
      I don't know what your life is like, but it would clearly be disrespectful and just damn stupid if I said you not having sex at all is "awful". If you're content with that, then that's fine. If you find it challenging, I hope you find ways to make it better or at least come to terms with it.
      
      People do many truly cruel and selfish things. Deliberately hurting others physically or emotionally, manipulating others into doing things they don't want to do, and supplying chemicals that create and feed addictions are examples of behavior that truly is despicable. Consenting adults giving each other physical pleasure and connecting emotionally on some level is not evil or wicked, regardless if that happens once every ten years or ten times a day.
      
      In my sixty-odd years, I've been through a lot of phases where I was very interested in one thing or another. How I read the OP is that she's discovered that sex is something she really enjoys, she now has the freedom to explore that, and so she's finding out what that aspect of life has to offer. It may turn into an unhealthy obsession which affects her ability to do anything else in her life, but it's far more likely she will learn things about herself and men during her time with the three guys, and then she'll find a new balance and move on.
      
      Finally, you are wrong when you say that nobody could possibly love the OP later in life if they learned about what she's doing now. True, there are some men who insist their bride is a virgin. Sometimes that's about the man being too dim to understand that religious codes are man-made social structures designed to control people (especially women). Sometimes that's about the man being so insecure about his sexual abilities that he can't bear the thought of being compared to another man.
      
      Some men would find the idea that the OP has had sex with multiple partners at the same time challenging, since they would - quite reasonably - wonder if they can truly satisfy her sexually. Hopefully, if the OP then wants a monogamous relationship and the guy does satisfy her, she will be able to make that clear to him. If he can't accept that, then that would be his problem, not hers.
      
      Intelligent people understand that we all have a personal history. Sexuality is one aspect of being human, and so most people have some sort of sexual history. What we do affects who we become, but the only thing that really matters in any relationship is how the people relate when they meet, and everything that happens between them from that point on.
      
      A significant number of men fantasize about their female partner having sex with them and another man. You may find that sick or perverted, but those men are not mentally ill and there are positive, healthy reasons for the men to want that. Those men would find the OP's current sexual activities no more awful or disgusting than I do.
      
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Zorak

6 years ago

Slut.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  6 years ago
  
  ☆♡☆♡☆♡
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  - Zorak
    
    6 years ago
    
    Sit and drink pennyroyal tea...steal the life thats inside of me...
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      6 years ago
      
      Whoa! Is that from something or did you just make that up?
      
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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

The only odd thing about this is that you're not having sex with more than one at a time. Try a spit roast, on all fours sucking one guy while another fucks you. Then have them switch off every couple of minutes. Its great fun.
And think about possibly more guys. If three are fun, why not more?

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- Zorak
  
  6 years ago
  
  How can you be spitroasted when you are a man still living with his mama in JERSEY?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    6 years ago
    
    As you're looking in the mirror and describing yourself, please tell us.
    
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JonathanOo

6 years ago

I can't say its normal but you did find an enjoyable spot to start with at your university. How many guys get the chance to room with 3 girls and experience them all?

None that I know of so your really lucky if you enjoy it. Just be safe and make sure none have any diseases. Also make it clear your not looking for any romance because there is no way a guy would trust you knowing you live with 3 guys and you mess around with them all. On the other hand my first thought was; what happens if you mistakenly say the wrong name. Or which guy is the worst but you don't tell him? Or which do you like the most etc. Lol. If I was a girl that's what I'd be thinking:D

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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

Nothing wrong at all. And you really should try two or even all three at once. It's great fun. Just ease into it.

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RoseIsabella

6 years ago

It would be funny if everyone in that house caught a disease.

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Everette

6 years ago

Fuck yea it's normal this is 21century fuckers .

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C0TT0N

6 years ago

Please everyone,

I need serious answers please ;_;

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- McBean
  
  6 years ago
  
  I for one, think if is wonderful that you are living the dream. But remember, society has one set of expectations. They are not the best for everybody. A free spirit like you must March to her own drum. I admire people like you that rise above the status quo.
  
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- Zorak
  
  6 years ago
  
  I gave you a serious answer. You are a little slut.
  
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  - C0TT0N
    
    6 years ago
    
    Oh well, could have been phrased a little differently though. :p
    
    But yeah, my comment could also have been phrased differently. :)
    
    I'm genuinely looking for advise/opinions that are a little longer than one single word. :)
    
    I'm sorry if I stepped on your toes. It was truely not intentional.
    
    You have my sincere apologies.
    
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    - Zorak
      
      6 years ago
      
      "Omg its stretching open my ass." -every generic white girl ever
      
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      6 years ago
      
      Don't take Zorak seriously. I very much doubt if he does.
      
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