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I hate asking for help because when I do it makes me feel weak like I can't handle my own problems. Is it normal to think that?
I understand the feeling. I used to do the same thing. Then I realized that thing become resolved faster and more efficiently if I ask for help. Usually they don't mind. Actually, they feel happy, needed, and accomplished to help. Or it isn't even a thing in their mind. Like an automatic, no brainer reaction.
The only thing I don't ask for help with is usually money related. I don't want to put someone out.
I still remember the first person I began asking for assistance from. Often it was something out of my limitations. Height or strength-wise. It made me feel weak asking, I would go out of my way to figure out how to overcome something myself or feel like a failure. He probably didn't/doesn't know what that meant for me. It was equally a trust thing. He was the only one who I allowed to be better than me.(because not being able to do something made me feel less than someone who could do it. It involved some vulnerability)
I recount a time when I was younger, I didn't even ask for help opening a door if my hands were full. I would lay on the floor and turn the door knob with my feet. (It would involve not being able to put something down)
Everything in life becomes a little easier if you've already done it once. So just reach out to someone. It's hard to do it for the first time, but you need a little vulnerability in your life.
Being strong all your life is a heavy burden you may suddenly find you can't carry anymore. Let someone carry it for you every now and again. They'll ask you to do the same later down the line. You make connections this way. No one will think you are weaker for it. Maybe yourself at first, but who is going to believe you, among all the people who disagree with your harsh criticism.
People may even be touched you let them see a different side of you. You are human. Everyone expects you to be.
It's all part of growing up, we all have pride and I have the same problem and I'm still tyring to cope with it. Sometimes I just don't know if what I am asking will be so stupid and everyone will know the answer, but you gotta know that to grow and be a good social person, we have to depend on people sometimes.
If you need help you need to talk to someone. Don't keep things bottled up.
Like when you are jerking off and you need a hand. You just yell "MOM" and she cums to help you. Her widdle boy.
I'm the one that most people usually come to for help in my circle. Over time, I learned that sometimes I need help from others and realized that I can gain from other people's knowledge/wisdom.
I've met few people that are as generous as I am but I don't care as long as I get enough help so I avoid getting into serious trouble.
If you need help-just ask for it from those your trust. It's a part of being human.