Is it normal to hate your own mother?

I never hated my mother, until after I was after 4 or 5 years old. She was a loving mother, a mother that I could snuggle up next to, a mother I would go near. But she started to change, when she was pregnant with my sister. She has been very cruel to me, she would hit me if I did something wrong (even little things). I would cry a lot. Then there are times where she is nice, buying me things but I know that is not going to last. I would pray a lot and ask God why is my mom like this. I wish I could move out. She change and gotten worse, her temper is uncontrollable, even my dad couldn't stand her sometimes. She would complain about me a lot and showed more care to my siblings than me. As I was going through 'the change', I was more stressed. She rarely hits me anymore but she hurts me verbally. She would get mad over the little things, I would get angry over almost everything she yells at me, I want to stand up for myself but I was afraid she wouldn't understand and would say that I hate her and I was ungrateful. I cry often and try to remember the times that I loved her but now I'm not sure anymore. She would discourage me and make me feel uncomfortable. I wish I could just lash it all out at her. Tell me is it wrong to feel like this at the age of 14?

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  • Nobody123456

    I hate my mother too I fell your pain

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  • ZaraKhan

    Parents are so childish. I just wonder how I will be now

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  • TexasToast09

    It is normal at some point in your teenage years to hate your parents, but not because they are being abusive like your mother is. If you are in an abusive situation, you should talk to someone you trust, or someone that is in a position to be trusted. You could try talking to your dad about it, but if you aren't comfortable with talking to him, try a teacher. If all else fails, walk to the police station or some place of authority based on where you live and tell them.

    As far as being treated differently that your other siblings, it happens very often in families. Parents tend to treat their children differently without even knowing they are doing it. Most often, if you are born first, or at least are an older sibling, you are more likely to be held to higher expectations.

    I would also like to mention that you can't be wrong for the way you feel, no matter how you feel, so don't worry about whether it is right or wrong. You also mention that you want to stand up to her. You don't have to do that to prove anything. You may think it will change the situation, and it might or it might not. It could make it worse. You will have to make that decision on your own with the information you have. If you don't feel like it is a good idea to do so, don't.

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