Is it normal to hate your manipulative mother?

I hate my mother... im not talking about merely disliking my horrible putrid excuse for a mother, no i passionately hate and despise her and i suspect many other people around the world secretly harbor an as of yet taboo dislike/hatred of their own mother's who are becoming increasingly vile and abusive towards their own children. I started this blog because im sick and tired of mothers being displayed as saintly nurturing Ne'er-do-wrong's that have only the best interests of their children at heart. Its time we take that little myth apart for good and shine a light on horrible mothers everywhere.

Why do i hate my mother? because like many other mothers she is manipulative, lazy, disrespectful, selfish and at times downright fucking EVIL.

How you ask? let me count the ways...

She is never wrong and effectively turns even the slightest criticisms of her actions into an incredibly disingenuous obviously forced escalation of anger, in hopes that simply appearing angry enough at any logical refutation of her bullshit, will make it appear as though she is in the right, and a victim of attack from the person calling out her bullshit. Thats right when this woman knows she is in the wrong and is confronted with the inconvenience of having to take responsibility for her misdoings, she feigns anger and emotional injury so as to appear genuinely hurt in order to gain sympathy from anyone present. This is what this sorry sack of human being would rather do instead of merely accepting and seeking solutions to the conflict SHE stirs up.

I have no formal training in psychology, and thus im not going to try to tell you what symtoms my taloned harpy of a mother exhibits according to Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, but i will coin my own terms that will undoubtedly dovetail with many of the worst psychologically destructive and narcissistic afflictions known to modern science.

here are various scenarios you fellow mother haters might appreciate exhibited by my mother dearest. does your mother quite literally suck the life and fun out of absolutely everything? does she have a way of immediately making everyone around her miserable, while simultaneously ensuring that pointing this fact out to her will only make it more miserable for you and everyone else?

If you live with her do you immediately feel an all encompassing relief the moment she leaves, and a sinking dreadful feeling bordering on abject horror when she returns? If you live on your own, would you rather run through a mine-field than to have to endure another insufferable visit from the wretched mother dearest and her constant sideways manipulative passive aggressive insults?

If you have children, or plan to in the future do you make every effort to isolate them from your mother because you simply refuse to allow that manipulative arachnid to seep her toxic poison into your progeny? If you have attempted to maintain some sort of relationship with her so as to not deprive your children of a grandmother, has the harpy obfuscated her true manipulative nature while in front of your children, in hopes of gaining their favor at what will invariably and inevitably come at your expense?

You my friend have what i like to call the latent black widow for a mother, typified by the millions proverbial eggs that she hatches and requires everybody to walk on, as well as the slow and toxic poison she secretes into everyone around her until it becomes an all encompassing miasma. if this is your mother stay tuned, because now there is a place, where she cant hide her miserable existence from the exposure we are about to visit upon her. if you are a fellow mother hater feel free to share your own horrible experiences at the hands of your manipulative shrew of a mother...Join me... more to come soon.

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  • SEWnanist23

    Try having a mother who thought about Her psychotic Bi Polar self and not preserving any dignity of Her children growing by having pictures handed over to other responsible family members before She went into Psycho Wards. The trove of pictures were probably left behind in houses after We abandoned them to refuge with other family members houses. I only now luckily have a wallet sized picture I call the "Holy Grail". It's all I've got with a few other photos!

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  • callb4ucome

    All i can say is I can not believe this and this sounds EXACTLY like my mother...its somewhat comforting to know i'm not alone

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  • hermione

    my mum wont talk to me maybe im lucky,but i now have this for a mother in law and im carefully trying to extract mummy dearest away from my husband and i do this by pointing out her flaws and by seconding guessing her next actions and im good at it too

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  • Jeshua

    Whooooaaaa!! Long ass post lmao. I understand how you could hate her,my moms is somewhat the same but I love her to death anyway.

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  • dichichan

    At least she isn't the type of mother who's been using you since the day you were born as a crutch because she made the stupid mistake of marrying an abusive husband, twice. She eventually leaves him but fills your little head with lies and deceits that you actually believed until you were in high school (some freaky story she made up about demons and another world). Theeen the moment she gets a boyfriend, she loses all interest in you because she doesn't need you anymore and gets married to the guy a year later. You inevitably move to live with an aunt since you can't stand it anymore but you still need to fend for yourself and you take a full time job while going to college and paying your all your bills because your heartless mother refuses to help you even in the slightest way...
    ps: also, she had a split personality that you were afraid of because you woke up one night to find her standing there staring at you which brought you to start sleeping with a knife under your pillow...

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    • joybird

      Oh yes - everything was / is my fault in her rotten life!! I raised my 4 siblings for her, only to be beaten and cussed at every single day. I got out the day I turned 18 and worked in a bar to subsidise college.

      She quotes the Bible constantly, thinks that everyone loves her (Not!!) and has moaned my whole life away. My dad wasn't much better but he died last year - she's still going strong!!

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  • joybird

    I'm joining this club for sure!!

    Only mine is so contrary that if I say black she'll say white. All the bloody time!!!

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  • dward232

    Dude, are you sure that you don't have my mother as your mother too?

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  • Shackleford96

    Wow, that is quite a lot of hate you are harboring there! While I can't say that I share this passionate hatred you have for your mother (you have actually made me realize how nice mine is, flawed though she is... I think I will call her up just to tell her that too...), I actually enjoyed reading this. I am interested to know who the O.P. is, or if you are new, welcome to IIN and I hope you decide to stay :)

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