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Ok well i have a girlfriend we have been together for 9 months and sometimes i cant stand her i actually despise her. she annoys me a-lot and i end up hating her from the bottom of my heart. i actually love her so these feelings of hate are bizarre. Is it normal?
Ive dated a guy for 4 years who i realized, in retrospect, really hated me almost from the beginning... It was not a good end and im permenanty scarred from all the bs he put me through while telling me he loves me. My point, if she annoys the crap out of you and you cant stand being with her sometimes it probably not for you and in my opinion you should end it before things get worse (cuz trust me it wont get better, you wont magically stop thinking shes annoying)... If you say you hate her but you love her then its probably not her you love, but an idea of her that you have in your mind that doesnt reflect reality. If thats not the case youre probably just using her for something thats so important to you that youre willing to put up with her driving you crazy... And thats not good for either one of you
ya its normal, just when you get angry go get a hooker and fuck out the anger.
No, this is actually far from normal. What you're experiencing isn't love, it's more of a sick attachment combined with the unwillingness to let go. If you hate, it's impossible to love.
You need to break it off before you end up seriously wounding her, and most likely yourself. After that, do some serious introspection and evaluate your emotional stability and your aptitude for a relationship.
All relationships have good and bad (ying and yang) moments.
if you truly love someone you will see past your disagreements (which if you didn't have, that definitely wouldn't be normal, because everyone has arguments) and still respect the person behind them.
If however it is something deeper and you are not liking her personality and are not enjoying her company then I would think it more carefully. Hate has a very strong meaning (hate is the opposite of love). Either way you still care about her (love or hate).
Try to imagine what it would be like without her, would you be happier without being with her.
The best thing to do is always discuss it with your partner and explain how you feel to them carefully to reach mutual understanding.
There is a fine line between love and hate. If you hated her you wouldn't be together.
You need to take some time apart coz hate & love don't mix when it comes to being with someone, maybe if you would've said annoyance. take time apart to figure out what it is that you really want & be honest with her
It is normal. But if you hate her so much, why are you still with her? Just end the relationship.