Is it normal to hate your dad and want to become someone better

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Hello, I'm 18 years old. The problem is that I hate my dad, and I know why, but I feel bad. He bought me a nice cell phone, and he's usually in a good mood, the problem is he has a lot of issues. My parents got divorced because of his anger issues and drug and alcohol addiction. He once beat my brother so bad that he got sent to the hospital, and my dad got sent to jail and I have pretty bad memories of him yelling and throwing shit around. He also never showed up to any of my school events when I was in high school. I use him as a standard of what not to be. Also, I want to become somebody better. I want to lead a life that people can look up to and create a safe zone for my future kids.

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  • CheyChey
    11 years ago

    Story of my fucking life! My dad is a loser and he's an alcoholic, forever chasing skirts, bad tempered, spends money like there is no tomorrow, but he is also the reason why I am at university studying like crazy because I do not want to be like him at all. The more I excel the more I feel detached from him and his loser ways. In my first year before I wrote my exams he told my brother that he had wasted money by paying my tuition because I was going to fail and that comment has drove me to obsessively study the way I do. I was never a perfectionist but that comment broke my heart so I put everything blood sweat and lots of tears and showed him that I was a force to be reckoned with. After that one semester my mum has been the one paying my tuition because I asked to stop because I know my dad he would have that "you owe me" thing for years to come and I did not want to owe him a single thing.

    I feel the position you are in and you have to have a resilient mind, we are not our parents at some point us kids have to be better than they ever were and we are young and free, the world is ours

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Born of a broken man, but not a broken man- Zack de la rocha

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Good! Me too! Don't let him try to mooch off of you when you're amazing.

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
    11 years ago

    Is it normal to hate your dad and want to become someone better - yeah normal.

    this is how change happens in the world. we learn from our parents mistakes, not realizing that someone else will one day learn from ours. ironic, isnt it?

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