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Ever since I was young I've had no connection with my Dad, I feel that he can't even name 5 of my friends excluding my best friend who he sees regulary. I can't have a conversation with him and he pushes me and pushes me to change who I am.
Is it normal?
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I've never felt close with my father at all either, and he has been a reasonably ok father figure..
Hate is a strong word, but it does sound like we have the same dad. Are you my long lost brother or something?
My dad was never really around. He was a drug obsessed, abusive piece of shit. He was completely out of my life by the time I hit ten because my mother moved into the States. I kind of remember him but most of what I know comes from my mom's descriptions. Some people just aren't blessed with that perfect dad, but well, that's what you got to work with. Have you tried standing firm and speaking to you father as an adult?
I have no reason to hate my father because he died when I was around 3 years old. I never got to know him as a person. I do think it's normal for you to dislike your father. I dislike a lot of my family members.
Don't worry it's normal. I hate my dad. Like you I had no connection with that selfish a-hole.
thats all your mad about? your either some kid...or someone who doesnt understand love...your father probobly cant name your friends because how could he remember 1 name out of the (possible) hundreds he already knows?
and he probobly pushes you to change because he wants you to have a better life than simply being on the computer and eating cheetos (we all know thats our dream but if it comes true than it was never a dream it was a goal)
My dad was an overly strict salty bastard, with terrible breath. He treated me like a slave, and spanked me often whenever I failed to meet his ego expectations.
It's funny. When he became elderly, I actually started to love him. The pain from childhood melted away. But the memories have helped me to be a much better parent than he ever was.
At least you have him in your life.
Your dad cares about you and you should be thankful. It's normal to be resentful towards your parent(s) at a young age because that's the time in your life you want to spread your wings and fly, but its also the time in your life that they want to be there to keep you from falling or to catch you when you do fall.
My dad's an alcoholic. Has been since his whole life. Chose booze over me. I don't resent him for it anymore. I used to but I understand that he's lost in it and can't get out.
It's normal, but be thankful that he's actually in your life. Many people out there don't even know who their dad is, or have him leave them and their family.
With my own father, Im torn. I hate him for awful things he's done but he has paranoid schizophrenia. I don't know if I should hate him or let it all go because of his illness.
Make the most of your dad: try to get to know him properly if you can. Mine died far too young just after we got to know one another.