Is it normal to hate working with a gay guy?

"sometimes he even talks about his boyfriend now!"
How awful for you...
Maybe you can write a best selling book about how you overcame such adversity to successfully man a cash register next to a gay person.
Truly a heroic mission. Maybe you could tell your story to Syrian refugee orphans, so they can realize their trials are nothing by comparison to yours.

You know what? You need to get over it. No, it's not normal of you. It's weird in this day and age. We are moving past this as a society, and you are on the wrong side of history.

He has a boyfriend, and I doubt you're his type anyway, so why are you all edgy? How is it different from working with a hetero woman who is also completely uninterested in you? Someone can be interested in sex with a specific, individual member of your gender without having any interest whatsoever in you, in case you hadn't noticed that from all the women who are not leaving their husbands and boyfriends to bed you.

As for talking about his boyfriend, if it makes you that creeped out, then I guess you could look like an ass and ask him not to talk about someone who is a part of his life -- but that also means you don't get to talk about your girlfriend (assuming you have a girlfriend).

Maybe it is a little uncomfortable for you at first. I get that. Sometimes it's uncomfortable to be around anyone who isn't like the people we already know. But that's your problem, not his. Why should he have to change his perfectly normal behavior to suit your weird ideation?

You wrote that you "thought he was OK." You were right; he is perfectly okay. You're the one who isn't being okay with this.

No it's not. You might find it strange, but that's just because it's something outside your comfort zone. If you learn to think of him as just another guy you work with, rather than 'the gay', maybe you'll feel less uncomfortable. You sound immature, and I think you should work on your tolerance of people.

How you would feel if this guy said exactly the same things about you? Think about it:

"I thought he was ok, but now that I know he's straight I feel pretty uncomfortable working with him. Like sometimes we need to work together closely at the register and I don't really want him anywhere near me. He still tries to talk to me too when there are no customers around - sometimes he even talks about his girlfriend now!"

How ridiculous does that sound?

Gay hater.

gay guy talking here ... I have had many similar experienses at work, school, friends even family and i can tell you that even if i get it often from people, who after i tell them i'm gay or they find out they start treating me like I'm radioactive or something, It realy gets me every time.
what I'm saing is that your feelings are unfortunatly common but just think how you must make that guy feel. You're very likely one of a number of people in his life that acts that way or worse around him and after a while it realy starts to get depressing.
when ever it happenes to me I know I'm not doing anything wrong, I just beeing my normal friendly self But some people just can't stop thinking about the fact I'm gay.
I don't think people who act like that are scared I'm going to kiss them or something I think what botheres people is the the fact that they can't stop thinking about it when they see me.

Ok it might make sense if maybe you had to share a shower since that is like sharing a shower with a chick. Anyway it is rude you hate being near him now just because he is gay. Get the fuck over it. If he is not hitting on you or anything I don’t see why it should matter what he does during his personal time. Its not like you just learned you work with a paedophile so what the fuck is your issue? You are the true definition of a homophobe and its really fucked up. Quit being such an ignorant asshole. You cant spread gay by being in close quarters you fucking retard.

Honestly, I think you need to widen your horizons. And if you're a guy and you think he might 'fancy you' just because he's gay and you're male - sorry but, get a grip! Would you think the same about a female colleague if she were straight...? No. Sorry if you're not a guy, but I think you are. I cannot stand it when people think that any gay people will 'come on to them'. Kinda big headed in a way? Anyway, really, ask yourself WHY it really matters. This is about your insecurity and unwillingness to accept a fellow human (when they've done nothing wrong). Chill!

nah dude, you're just a prick

As always, I notice that people kind of miss the point of this site. Just because something is "normal" it doesn't mean it has to be "right".

This situation for example, it doesn't really expose the nicest behavior... but it is completely normal. Many people go through this every single day all around the world. Being forced to share vital space with someone homosexual for the first time is usually something shocking, even for people who aren't homophobes. It isn't even about gay people, being close to someone "different" can be hard for many. Racial minorities, people from other cultures... there is always a little shock at first and people treat them, as someone just said, as if they were radioactive.

However, this isn't all bad. Being in this situation forces a person to become more tolerant and open minded. In my personal experience, I grew up in a very conservative enviroment, in which "gays" were inexistant and satanized constantly. When I first had to be around gay people, I was kind of scared... but after a while, I learned that they are just people, like everyone else.

And well, to the OP, I just have to tell you that I understand how you feel... but that I hope that you eventually learn that gay people can be just as nice as anyone else.

As odd as it may sound, I'd suggest making an effort talking more with this coworker. I can say from personal experience that a lot of the animosity you're feeling right now is simply fear of something you haven't experienced before.

If you talk to the guy more, you'll likely discover he's just a normal guy who happens to be gay.

OP....... That must be so hard.. Standing next to another human being, all alive.. Another human being who probably have no intention of harming you at all.... How horrible it must be..

Does it feel icky' when he says hi too?..

Get a fucking grip.

You're a dick. Just because he has to work with you doesn't mean he's gonna rape you or something. Why is it okay when straight people talk about their partners but it's weird when gay people do that?

SO you only liked him when you thought he was straight? Wow you're nice.

The problem you are having is you think that all gay guys will try to seduce you. OPEN UP YOUR EYES. He has a boyfriend, why would he try to force you to have sex or kiss? Just because some guys are gay DOES NOT mean they love you. They could, but it doesn't mean they love every single guy in the world. He has a boyfriend, anyway, so you know he doesn't love you.

OP, are you male or female? If you're male I somewhat get it, if you're female you're overreacting

Just get over your self so what if he is gay live with it, its not as if he is going to jump you as he is with someone.

I'm gonna go against the grain (and prolly pi**some people off) and say it is normal. I would find the whole situation kind of awkward myself.

It's as normal as my dick

It makes you feel bad cos you want bumsects really :-P

Only kidding, I get where you coming from, ignore the self righteous telling you off

Hey I'll be honest and say I don't feel comfortable having a dude talk about his boyfriend.

But hey that's life, we learn to work with people from all walks of life. But it doesn't mean if the person is Gay it automatically means he wants to get you into bed with him.

I would politely tell him that it isn't appropriate to discuss topics of this nature at work or tell him you don't feel comfortable talking about this particular topic and acknowledge you appreciate him for understanding.

I would say its totally normal, working with gays makes me very uncomfortable. No one wants to hear about your unnatural love life or see it manifested in any way.

i guess im the only person who think this is totally normal, i'd better shut up before everyone get pissed off.

Normal

Of course it's normal. Don't let virile feminists and the PC police tell you what to think. They can cry foul 'till the cows come home, but that doesn't change peoples' instinctual responses.

ProseAthlete is clearly very enlightened. He/she/it should move into an all-black and gay neighborhood, and then tell us how she hardly noticed life.

#hypocrisy

Yeah it's normal. Did you know gays can spread aids through the air within a certain proximity?! Either quit or file sexual harassment against him to get him fired.

Ignorant Fool!

Prick...