Is it normal to hate when people come over my house?

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I'm an 18-year-old senior girl in high school. I have a lot of friends. The one trait I have that I can't seem to understand, is my inability to have friends over. I don't just mean a whole group of friends, but one or two at a time. I cringe when they use my makeup, or when they're in my bathroom using my things. I just feel like they're using my face washcloth to wipe hair gel on, or my eye shadow brushes for dark colors and sticking them back. I have a place and a use for everything, but it wouldn't seem that way to the naked eye.
I had three friends over last night to get ready to go out. I'm stressing so much right now that my stomach hurts and I feel like I want to cry. I want to clean all my makeup they could have possibly used, wash every towel that was in my bathroom, clean all my combs and brushes, clean my sheets, clean my floor (extensively.) I know this isn't normal I just can't seem to understand this at all.
And the way this works is if I clean everything and straighten up it will be OK, but it will take some time. If i ignore it all, my room and bathroom and stuff will get extremely messy, I won't want to clean anything, and everything will become messier than before.
Thank you for your responses!

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    Tell your friends that they cannot use your makeup when they come over to your house. If they don't listen then explain to them that you do not like it when they mess with your stuff and rearrange them. Good luck.

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  • r3cpo
    6 years ago

    only have one over at a time that way its easier for you to get used to this . they are like that . they do it at there place so they just figure nothing of it. or just go over to there place when you are already all done then leave from her place. tell her you dont like others using your makeup. its different for you but you will learn to adapt to there ways slowly.

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  • thevoiceofone
    11 years ago

    Hi guys
    I also get irritated when people come to my house especially if it is unannounced but I think my peeved is more about alone time than anything else, I like to go home and relax do what I want and if I want to wear my P.J's till 3pm on my day of so be it but if people come over you have the need to play host politely which means getting dressed and offering coffee ect.. As far as the cleaning I can see your point although I am not quite so extreme but I don't think it makes you abnormal at all just honest I bet like me allot of people think it and just don't say

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  • SuperGreen
    12 years ago

    I'm the same way; I get irritated when people come over and mess up my clean house/things. I'd keep your makeup zipped up in a bag in your room when your pals come over. Leave out some old makeup that you won't care if they use. It's normal to clean up after messy visitors leave, but if you think you're being obsessive about the cleaning, you probably are. And there's nothing wrong with enjoying your alone time, but be careful you don't shut people out of your life. You may be lonelier than you bargained for if you push them away. Good luck.

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  • awerfgaerg
    12 years ago

    It's odd, I have a similar reaction to friends coming over to my house. But of course, not makeup, and whatnot. Like, I noticed I often put my feet up at friends' houses, and my own, but the thought of someone doing that at my house does irk me. It's hypocritical, and I know it. Like, it bothers me when people use my laptop. Yet, recognizing that they allow me to do the exact same things with their belongings, I do my best to refrain from cringing.

    Of course, I do draw the line occasionally. Like when a friend comes over, uses the bathroom, CLEARLY doesn't wash his hands, and then tries to use my laptop. Hell naw, kid. Get your ass back in the bathroom.

    I'll also admit, I'm a bit OCD/germaphobic, which could contribute to the problem.

    I also dislike having people over in general. Not sure why, but it's a separate, non-OCD/germaphobic thing. I'd much much much rather go anywhere else.

    Bottom line: I think that it's definitely a bit of an overreaction. There's nothing wrong with cleaning, nor organization, but you (and I) ought to do our best to get used to sharing. College dorms will probably force the issue, for better or for worse.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Were you an only child?

    You sound as though you're not used to sharing your things.

    Maybe you have OCD. Honestly though, you should be glad you have friends - there are many on this site that don't.

    Chill out girl. There are more important things to stress over.

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    Yeah I would just tell your friends to bring their own shit over to get ready to go out. This is what my friends always do...just seems like common sense. I wouldn't feel right using someone else's make up and stuff...it's just weird.

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