Is it normal to hate the way i was raised?

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I'm not trying to blame my problems on my parents, but I honestly think the way they raised me has partially made me a person I don't wanna be. They allowed me to get away with so much, therefor I'm lazy, unorganized and generally unmotivated. They never disciplined me, I would say no and they would just accept it. Also, they never established a relationship where I could talk to them, and that caused me to get into quiet a bit of trouble and I developed major depression from keeping everything inside. I have two younger brothers and they have taken a COMPLETLEY different parenting strategy with them, it's almost like they just gave up on me. Like, "we messed up with the first kid lets just try harder with the next two." I know the only person who can change the way I am is myself, but teaching yourself self-dicipline is extremely difficult and I can't change the way I am, but I feel like I could have been a better person if my childhood was different. What are your thoughts about this?

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Based on 47 votes (42 yes)
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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    If you want to learn, you'll change eventually. Your parents may not have been able to say no, but the world will. Can I have time off from to work? NO! I just finished college and I really want this job! Go to the interview, do I have this job? NO! Bought a brand new phone on a contract. Can I break this contract? NO! Do you want a waranty? NO! My phone broke, can I get a new one? NO! Heyo, you/your girlfriend is pregnant. Are you ready for a baby? No. To bad!! Doesn't matter what you're parents say, you'll get beaten down with the rest of us when you have to pay bills and shit just keeps going wrong. Luck to you!!

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    • cinderella11
      11 years ago

      Hello, I feel exactly how you feel! Only those of us who were treated with such unfairness!!!! Only understand , I am the youngest of 5 , I know I was an unwanted child because my mother told me everyday of my childhood , I have a brother 1 year older and a sister 3 years older AND THEY WERE TREATED WITH LOVE , caring , do things for them ( I always just got the left overs in everything) clothes, Love,
      When it came to quality time with children one on one, I witnessed my mom only giving that to my older siblings , I never had support as a child or an adult the way they were. I was never asked where is your report card? Never signed up in sports ( but u betcha sister and bro every year) they even went to private schools and I went to public ( was told only enough funds to send two)
      So yes I understand exactly what u mean and it does affect our future ( example wasn't pushed to go to college always was told not enough money left after having to put my brother and sister in college before me) its easy for the last 2 people who made negative comments because they did not feel the same pain as u and me! It's a whole lot easier to get thru life when u have parents backing u up PERIOD!!
      Feel ur pain LOL TO YOU AND YES WE DO HAVE TO WORK HARDER IN LIFE , but why when we should of been treated equal!! As it is parents DUTY to do so! Shame on people if they do not treat there children the same or they only should of had one child!!!

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Typical first child.

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  • noid
    11 years ago

    I don't like how the way I was raised has affected me either. Cheers!

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  • dude_Jones
    11 years ago

    If you really feel that you need to internalize kicking your own ass, I suppose you could join the military. Why not just quit being lazy. Focus on other people.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    All good cakes should be baked not fried.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    All parents make errors and there arrives a time where us kids understand that our parent haven't always took the right decision with us. They're only humans after all. When we are old enough to see our parents as just other human beings with their flaws and qualities then we are old enough to make the changes that we see necessary in ourselves.

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  • lizieralizard
    11 years ago

    get over it. There are people with alot bigger problems than that one.

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    • myweirdself16
      11 years ago

      Just because someone's life is worse than yours doesn't mean you don't have the right to complain about it.

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      • lizieralizard
        11 years ago

        agreed but maybe if we stop focusing on our little problems we would see how lucky we really are.

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