Is it normal to hate somebody and be in love with them?

Alright, so there's this guy I have feelings for... and I'm honestly not too sure why. I question what attracts me to him; he's selfish, apathetic, arrogent, he treats me like crap half the time and he's a HUGE flirt with every girl. And maybe average attractive-ness. I can't stand him. But I know I'm completely in love with him... he's that person that's always on my mind, the person I drag myself to school every morning to see, someone I can't help but smile around... is it normal? I mostly want to know if anyone else has had similar feelings, or maybe you could help me figure out why anybody would be attracted to someone they hate?

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Based on 52 votes (36 yes)
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  • nnee

    im in the same boat...in time youll figure out ur just in lust with him

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  • you probably like them thuggish wanna be black looking guys that try to look like a bad ass when their not and their just a pussy ass redneck hillbilly boy

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  • Ooh gosh all the past crushes I have had I totally despised in every way but I just couldn't stop thinking about them and I hated that I loved them and no matter how hard I tried we always ended up dating and every relationship lasted 6 months+

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  • deepthought33

    Whoa! Did I just read a post from my 15 year-old self? I wish I could help ya hun. I always hoped to find my fairy tale in this guy. I wanted to be perfect for him. He seemed perfect to me but his uncaring charisma was so aggravating.
    It wasn't until much later that I realized it was mostly just teenage hormones making life and it's people more complicated then it needed to be.

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  • steve.westberg

    Though sometimes Indian girls make sense but most of the time I find them extremely irritating, disgusting and too much complicated. On contrary, white and latina girls are very normal, straight and loveable. Indian girl may make sense when it comes to job, business etc but when it comes to men, I don't find them sense making at all. Best bet is to buy a business a give it to Indian woman to run. To live life, marry latina or white. And its not just any man versus Indian women even Indian women also find thier own country man extremely stupid, snoody and arrogant and that's why it is good for both Indian Men and Women to live with others. In my college, I used to see how Indian boys and girls hate each other.

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  • i could just be you really like it when a guy has a lot of confidence. i know i do. somebodys got to like the arss holes!

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  • hell yes! i understand where your coming from i know a guy i hate! we always argue and i know i have a huge crush on him, the way i look at life people can fall in love or get crushs on just about anyone. it's normal

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  • In certain aspects, yes. It's normal.
    Hell, I had a girlfriend that I absolutely fuc**** hated, but for some reason, I still liked her. No clue why.
    This also sounds like a situation I know of.
    I like a girl, she goes out with douchebag, yada yada yada... you know the rest~
    All the best, Kiddo.
    Johnny.

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  • GauravGaurav

    Sometime It happens that the uniqueness
    of someone we like we fond of that person But it doesn't mean we love that person Love is a precious and untold able feeling for someone I hope u are misunderstanding ur feelings

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  • mtnw

    just because you have a chemical attraction to an asshole doesn't mean you love him. maybe you have the hots for him, but that's not love. why be such a fool?

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