Is it normal to hate sex

What does being a white girl have to do with it?

Forcing yourself to enjoy sex, is like forcing yourself to become a professional bull rider. If you don't like it now, don't think going back to it will make anything better.

You sound incredibly young, so just heed my advice.

Sex is not for everyone. That's just a fact. Some people are asexual, some pansexual, etc. You may be asexual, or you may be at a place in your life where you are not ready for sex. And that's fine. But don't force it.

What you can do, however, if you enjoy self-stimulation is to masturbate and find out what you enjoy in terms of fantasies, spots, toys, etc. If you find none of them enjoyable, and still find this odd please go to a doctor. They will be able to examine and explain things in a way that I may not be doing correctly.

But in the case that you do enjoy masturbation, perhaps you can (if he respects you, and your limits that is) let him know what you like and that you two should take things slow. Instead of penetration, he should learn how to use other techniques that will make you more comfortable. And then, whenever YOU feel ready, perhaps then you two can try penetrative sex.

God I hope this makes sense. Good luck!

I think it's safe to say that you aren't ready for sex....
don't do it just because that is what everyone else is doing....

Completely normal. I'm asexual :)

It certainly isnt the norm to abhor the idea of having sex. 98% of people find it very pleasurable.

Sex has to be awesome, im shure you're doing it wrong

my friend had this problem with her boyfriend, but it turned out she was gay, it just took her a while to figure out..

Not everyone likes sex. some people say it's over rated. I wouldn't say that you were asexual though as you enjoy giving sexual pleasure. xx

It seems like you're asexual, i.e. sex doesn't appeal to you. Asexual people account for a very small percent of the world population, something like less than 1%, so no, not normal.

Have u tried anaL i had a gf once that hated vaginal sex but loved anal just a though

Please consider what I am going to say. Society says that you SHOULD like sex. So, you have sex and abhor it. Time goes on and you forget how bad it was. So, you listen to society again, have sex and feel abused.

Please, do not get intimately involved with men. You will make them feel miserable and never understand why. If sex in a situation is imperative, give the guy a hand job and send him home.

You are a person that is capable of feeling peace in her heart with solitude and isolation. Very few people can do this. It is your gift.

That's weird. Sex feels so good :-)

You may have to consider having a new boyfriend. You may love the one you have, but if you're not attracted to him, then that not good sex wise. I agree that forcing yourself to have sex is not good. If u don't like it, then don't do it. Do is hurt? Cuz there might be a physiological problem too that makes u uncomfortable. Good luck to you!

I Know What Yu Mean Hun

I hate sex too. Its not my partners fault I just dont like how it feels. its uncomfortable and i just hate doing it.

Odd's are you've been brought up in an environment that taught you that sex, arousal and sexual urges are inappropriate. If not, it may be something else entirely, even medical. If sex for you isn't a pleasurable experience, you're going to have a lot of trouble "Convincing" yourself to like it.

If it has to do with the way you were brought up around it, I'd do a little research online and find out what makes it so great in the first place. Releases dopamine, lowers stress, reduces headache frequency and actually burns a fair amount of calories are just a few perks related to sex.

If it's medical, I can't suggest much, other then maybe looking into it through your doctor. Though i don't think theirs much help in that regard.

how do you know if you are a virgin ?

I'm a virgin. I don't like sex either.