Is it normal to hate perfect families/siblings that bond good?

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Is it normal to have these feelings? I hate families that are perfect and siblings that never fight and get along well and talk and understand each other. I get jealous of my boyfriends relationship with his sister. He always talks about her he says they never fight and he never complains about her. We been together for 3 years and he never once complained about his family or his sister. I have about 10000 times since we been together (they annoy me on a daily basis) my siblings belittle me and exclude me from their conversations and friends. He always talks about her and tries including her into our conversation and always wants to show her off. They're close in age but so am I with my siblings. I don't know if anyone else feels like this towards sibling love (closeness) and people that never fight with their families. Is this normal? He makes it seem like his family is picture perfect cause he never complains about things like this. He takes pictures of her off guard and sends them to me sometimes he tells me stories of her and then he will think i'll like something cause of his sister cause she likes it or try to make be like her it seems. It's hard to explain but I tried the best I could. Is this to feel this way? Can anyone else relate?

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  • SkullsNRoses
    7 years ago

    It's definitely understandable for you to be jealous in your situation, seeing your boyfriend able to take for granted something you crave. This on top of the face that feeling like you should have a bond with someone (in this case your siblings) when you don't is always difficult and sometimes painful.

    I think it's worth remembering that although some families do get on better than others families that NEVER fight literally do not exist. At all. His family WILL have their issues and arguments, your boyfriend just doesn't advertise them to you. Bear in mind that they're probably on "guest behaviour" when you see them and are much less likely to have a squabble infront of you than when they're alone.

    The slightly concerning part is that you feel he's trying to make you more like his sister, can you elaborate on that?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Thanks for understanding :) It's just he says things like for an example he wanted to send me a christmas gift through mail. Well he says but he never sent me one through mail ever. "Do you want lipgloss? Cause that's what my sister wants." "Do you get mad when someone talks bad about your favorite celebrity?" cause my sister does. Then he once said he was my doll or that he was going to get me one or something like that. His sister loves dolls. I just thought it was kinda weird. Then he also told me that he was going to get me a kitty headband but I saw on her twitter that she had a kitty head band in one of her pictures. It's just weird cause everything seems to perfect. It is wrong that I feel this way.

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