Is it normal to hate my mother?

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So, my mom and me have a complicated shitty relationship. She had me at 15 and was unprepared to raise me, which resulted in the situation we have today. She's careless, heartless, and a stuck up bitch to put it nicely. And she knows it too, at least the heartless one. Then there's me; I am very emotional and care too much. But, since she doesn't have the capacity to feel and be caring like a normal mother it corrupted me. All my life she's said things like " quit crying your only making a fool out of yourself" or " what's wrong with you don't be so f***ing stupid." And she said this stuff for almost any mistake I made or when I cried. She's very over protective which has lead me to act out and made things way worse. She literally treats me as if I'm 3 like for example she acts as if no one can know I even have a body she always wants me covered up or I'm a whore. Oh and she's religious too so yeah there's that. The answer to everything is you need Jesus. And me I'm not religious at all so it all seems retarded. The reason I'm writing this today is me and her just had a hour long talk about how I don't like her or anyone else in my stuck up white privledged family and I can't wait until I leave. all she can say is that I'm crazy and as long as I live under her roof in her property. But she also says as soon as I leave she won't care about me so I'm just like what the hell. I'm going to be leaving soon but not soon enough and all I can do is put up with her dumb shit and hope for the best. So is it normal to hate her so much?

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  • jsnpq
    7 years ago

    Yeah, she sounds pretty awful. Stay strong, be patient and get as far away from her as you can as soon as you can. You are not obligated to love or tolerate people just because they are related to you.

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  • NormaLeeSane
    7 years ago

    Your story sounds a lot like mine, except my mother was 24 when she got pregnant with me (which was obviously a deliberate ploy to trap my father into marriage). Another difference is that my mother had forsaken her Christian beliefs when she left home at 18 - thank whatever god(s) that might be out there, by the way. She went back to Christianity after I left home, more's the pity - she's even more intolerable now than she was back then, and I wouldn't have thought it possible! I hate everything about my mother - I hate her personality, her religion, her face - I hate her! Truly, I cannot imagine feeling anything but relief when I find out she has moved on to her final reward (which I suspect won't be quite as wonderful as she thinks it will - if there is a hell, I think Hitler's final reward will be better than hers).

    But other than those minor details, yeah, your upbringing sounds a lot like what I suffered as a child. If your mother is as much like mine as I suspect, don't expect her to change at all - in fact, she's likely to get worse as she ages - much worse. My mother is 84, and continues to surprise me with how much uglier she can be to me every time I have to deal with her. Please get out while you can, and don't feel bad for abandoning her - she's earned it.

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  • creampawf
    7 years ago

    try to see things form her perspective and act more mature than she is, and she listen to you. also state your opinion but maybe sneak it in? I don't know. If that doesn't work, move out as fast as possible.

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  • Themanrules
    7 years ago

    Sounds like she doesn't want u to make the mistakes she made. At a young age maybe she doesn't know how to express the right way? How old are U? It's hard between 13 and 23 I think...

    That's when teens start to hate parents and then after become so close and understand. The shotty part is when they die shortly after and you think..... I wish I understood different as you treat your young one the same way...

    Sometimes life gets to overwhelming and our regrets suck when it happens to fast.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Apparently so.

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  • WhiteApple
    7 years ago

    I know your life sounds pretty fucked up, and for most parts, it is. Mother's are supposed to be the greatest gifts on earth, right? To me, they are no different than any other person, man or woman.

    The reason I think like this is because women gave up on femininity years ago, it's all over the news today, equal right, pay, and so on... So I look at women as any other person. If they wish respect from me, they have to earn it!

    Your mother is pretty screwed up and it is ashamed you have to live with the bitch! Try not to let her fuck you up in the brain. My advice as soon as you get the chance move far away from her. She does not deserve you respect nor do you owe her anything just because your are related by blood. I wish you luck!

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