Is it normal to hate my mother?

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I'm 20 years old. As a kid i always liked my mom more then my dad. Now that i'm older i've come to the realization that my moms a total bum and my dad was really doing the role of two parents.

My moms an alcoholic and a bum. Shes never done anything. She got literally tons of opportunities in life and squandered them all. Only thing she does is live off of my dad. They've been divorced for 6 years now and he still pays all of her bills.

When i was a kid my house was so hectic. I always thought it was my dad (he is a dick) but now i realize it must have been my mom. My dads rude but he isn't vindictive. My mom is just fucking crazy. She runs around going on rants about how shes sick of working. SHES NEVER HAD A FUCKING JOB. And she doesn't keep up with the housework. At all. And she never has. Then she turns around and basically tries to poison me against my dad telling me what an evil person he is.

Not only that but shes never been there for me for anything. Never given me a dime. Never came to my ball games. Never came to my recitals. Never came to my graduations. Never came to anything. And its not like she didn't have time. Only thing she does is get drunk at home. Or get drunk at the club. Daily. She didn't come cuz she didn't give a fuck.

I hate her. And i wish i woulda realized what a piece of shit she was at a much younger age. I've vowed to never talk to her again. People say its normal to hate your parents at this age. But i don't hate my dad at all. I fucking hate my mom and wish i didn't have her dna. Shes a gossiping, drunk, cunt and i wish she would kill herself.

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  • Light-Yagami
    9 years ago

    Try to forgive her? It isn't healthy to hate anyone to the extent that you wish they were dead. If you've already moved out then try to minimise contact with her, if you have yet to move out then do so ASAP.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    Your mum has done everything likely to make you hate & despise her, and to still resent her so much is entirely normal BUT not affecting her, only you.

    I reckon you need some help with this & as soon as you can get it: you could try Al-Anon for family/friends of alcoholics or better still but usually harder to find, Adult Children of Alcoholics.

    She is really sick, you know, and although no-one forced her to start drinking no-one would choose to be an alcoholic, by the time people acknowledge they are it's very hard for them to change, a lot easier to just have one more drink. Sad to say, you can't change her but you can, with help, change how you're reacting to her. I know, I've done it and it's worth it: you're worth it

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  • CrazyPerson1
    9 years ago

    and to head off your comment thegypsysailor Yeah Yeah whatever, you think I'm a brat. You hate my guts. I know. Make your own IIN about your ego instead of hurting others feelings thank you very much.

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  • CrazyPerson1
    9 years ago

    How the heck did my comment end up in front of his? Anyways.
    Don't worry, I hate my mom too, Really very normal, And yes I believe every word you have said. People averagely don't swear if they don't strongly believe something and I really want to help people that are younger with horrible families. Mainly because that is what happened to me and it shouldn't happen to kids. I am lonely as heck and am afraid of dating . because mainly... I am deathly afraid of turning out like my mom!

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  • CrazyPerson1
    9 years ago

    Again thegypsysailor I SO TOTALLY GUESSED YOU WOULD COMMENT HERE! I would LOVE to call you soooo many names. I finally had a way to tell the world my problems and instead of rejecting me for them THERE ARE PEOPLE HERE THAT CAN HELP US!!!!!!! Honestly I think you have an ego problem and think putting other people down is fun. Pick a different website to put people down on. Are you sure YOU aren't some bratty little l2 year old that thinks its fun to put people down that just really need to complain about their life? one more thing WHERE DID SHE MENTION THAT HER "MUMMY" WOULDN'T LET HER GO TO SCHOOL IN CLOTHES THAT ARE TOO SEXY FOR A 12 YEAR OLD?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Are you sure you are 20 years old? Your post sounds more like so many on IIN written by little 12 year old girls who's mummy won't let them go to school in clothes that are too sexy for a child of that age.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Tut tut gypsysailor "who's"? Whose, surely ... got out of bed (bunk?) the wrong side today eh? Where did that 12 yo girl stuff come from?

      Anyone who's known alcoholics, and I've known a few, would recognise this as a very accurate description of one.

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