Is it normal to hate my mom for a horrible childhood?

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I grew up with a selfish mom. Any man or men around were always more important them me and my sister. She was a partier There were always lots of people around she fed everyone and I never felt safe or protected. For my younger sister it was worse she was sexually abused alot more , I merely just got grabbed and inappropriate touched till I was old enough to resist. My mom didn't give a sh*t what happened to us as long as she got attention. We were always poor and she barely fed and clothed us. I was always insecure and scared. when I grew up I forgave that even though my sister was taken from her and i was left with her and her abusive boyfriend. when I got older she moved in after my husband died to help me sort of. But I learned recently how bad my sister had it and now i truly HATE her for mine and my sisters childhood and more. She is a horrible person that tries to make people including my sister think she is a good person. she is rude, annoying , dirty, abrasive, disrespectful and leaches off me and causes fights between me and my younger sister for her own twisted needy purposes. How can I do anything but dislike this women that let my sister be repeatedly molested and actually say it wasn't her fault she didn't know?to this day she says she did nothing wrong> we told her all the time ..why is this women defended by my sister? I know she doesn't deserve to be treated with reverence by my sister. My mom is nasty to me , my kids, my daughters boyfriend and even my new husband. living with her is hell. My sister defends her though. I dont understand this and I need her to leave and just not have her in my life. why is my sister defending the lies my mom tells? this is truly a crazy situation.

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Based on 49 votes (37 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I hate your mother too.

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  • augustxo
    10 years ago

    My mother was not great to me growing up as well, so I kind of understand where you're coming from. I'm sure it's getting really annoying, but try to always remember to be the bigger person and to handle the situation in a mature way. I have tried so many times to forgive my mother for what she did, and although I think I forgiven her, I don't think i'll ever forget. If you can't live with your mom, and you think she's holding back your life, tell her she needs to leave. Try to see everything from their perspectives. Good luck.

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  • lesboland
    10 years ago

    kick her out!!

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  • dianadicesare9
    10 years ago

    lately she has resorted to slander, lies , manipulation and half truths to gather people on her side to harass me , even more reason this unstable person needs to stay away.

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  • dianadicesare9
    10 years ago

    Think that's a very good point

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  • Ixu
    10 years ago

    My mother only learnt her lesson after being driven out the house and a few years down the line became alone and homeless. She has changed significantly over the years after all this happened to her and although I've forgiven her for the awful years I don't really want to see her, I do occasionally see her out of pity and to see if she's doing alright, and she's fine in her shelter with her new friends.
    You and your sister are traumatized and despite what your sister says you need to get your mother out of your lives for quite some time, her mere presence will not allow for your rehabilitation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Yes, normal.

    There is no good answer to this, but I think it's more good to cut ties with toxic people.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I would kick her out. She will probably never realize that she fucked up. Your sister needs to realize that. I hope she doesn't let her move in. Anyone who lets their kids be molested and doesn't put a stop to it is unforgivable in my book. I'd rather live with a serial murderer who hurts people they don't know.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    maybe yr sister needs a mother , an imperfect mother , but a mother that was there in her life

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    • dianadicesare9
      10 years ago

      Perhaps but my sister shouldn't shelter the one person that offered her no protection and love and has made her nearly kill herself 3 separate times .

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  • HurdyGurdy
    10 years ago

    It is absolutely normal to hate her for neglecting her only children, leaving them vulnerable to abuse.

    You are in the right to be mad. Please don't doubt yourself, you have a right to your feelings.

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    • dianadicesare9
      10 years ago

      Thank you

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Ask her to move out and if she refuses kick her out. Maybe she can move in with your sister.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    I hope you hate her more than walls of text that cannot be deciphered.

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    • dianadicesare9
      10 years ago

      Yes thanks for your kindness , sorry you didn't get perfect grammar from me while I was crying at 330 am ..thx for the support

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