Is it normal to hate my image in the mirror?

76% Normal
8 Comments

There are some days where I really, truly hate my face and general appearance - where I can't look at myself in the mirror because I feel so ugly. I don't feel that way all the time, but when I look at other women doing their hair or makeup in mirrors at the public restrooms, I just quickly fix my hair and leave, not looking at my face.

I honestly can't imagine myself with a different face, so I imagine myself with an owl's head instead, a lot like the owl head masks in the Adult Swim adverts.

I think I already know the answer for this one, but is it normal that I feel that way about myself?

Voting Results
76% Normal
Based on 25 votes (19 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 8 )
  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I would say it's normal to not like your appearance, although I don't know if it's normal to be to the extent it is for you.

    This isn't exclusive to genuinly unattractive people, it can happen to attractive people too. May come off as vain here, but I'm told to be very attractive, yet there are days where I will pick at any flaw I have and conclude that I'm an ungly bastard. It's something I have to get over aswell.

    I'm sure you're not hideous, and even if you were, tons of hideous people find love. :)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    4
    4
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I've never been told I was attractive, but I've never been told I was ugly, either. I don't usually think of myself as being hideous, unless my acne is flaring up or I've had a rough day. That unfortunately happened a lot during my last few years of high school, so it's kind of ingrained in my brain now.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      1
      1
        -
      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        I can certainly relate to the acne issue. There have been times in my life where it was so bad that my reflection in the light on the sun looked like a sheet of of white paper with red marker all over it.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      I think physical beauty can be both a blessing and a curse. When I've been sexually harassed in the workplace I wanted more than anything to appear hideously frightful to the person who was harassing me and beautiful to everyone else. I felt afraid inside and ironically ugly, because if the person who was harassing me thought I would return their interests or that we were in the same league I must be pretty ugly in the conventional sense.

      It was horrible when those things would happen to me. I'm not too happy about my status as a middle aged woman, but a couple of things I love are that fact that I seem to get more respect, additionally I'm more courageous about what I say and less worried of being disliked by or hurting the feelings of the creepers of the world.

      I honestly don't think think you could ever be ugly, but I can certainly relate to wanting to pick out and or fix every flaw.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Steve2.0
    8 years ago

    What the HELL are you thinking?! Seriously, just...oh, I don't even know.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    I think it's normal to avoid looking in mirrors when you're having one of those 'look-like-crap' days. It's better than to keep looking, wondering if you've been this ugly the whole time and are just the last to know...
    If you keep looking, you never get more attractive. So I find it better to just avoid looking altogether.
    Wait for a 'damn-im-sexy' day and then you can look in the mirror all you want.
    The owl thing is probably more creative than most people get, but I still think normal.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Often during lunchbreak I would go use the bathroom, and find that my face is extremely oily looking, or my hair is completely out of place - and I'd be a little bit mad because no one ever tells me when something doesn't look quite right. (Which makes me wish I had a small mirror on me, although I'd be tempted to look at myself in it constantly and seem really vain)

      To be more clear, the only reason I visualize having an owl head is because I actually can't really remember what my own face looks like when I'm not looking at a mirror or picture. Something about my own face is just so forgettable, I don't really have any stand-out features aside from my nose, but I've never really liked my nose.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Vile
    8 years ago

    "kind of attractive." Isn't good enough.... Your reflection is essentially what others see you as e.g. a fatass. If you aren't happy in COMPARISON and you DON'T LOVE YOUR ugly ass self what makes you think you can LOVE OTHERS unless you FIRST love yourself? You need to UP YOUR GAME, stop bitching about nonsense. Make yourself LOOK BETTER and you will FEEL BETTER about yourself.

    I took my shirt off today at little league soccarball practice and got indirect compliments, and that WOMAN

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1