Is it normal to hate my friends?

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Quite often now I feel like my friends hate me and that I hate them. There's five of us and two have boyfriends.

I guess it started when one time my mom put a note in my lunch box, letting me know my sandwiches were different today (one ham, one chicken; I can get upset when things don't go to plan) and my friend just looked at me and yelled 'YOU RETARD!'. Ever since she got this boyfriend she's been really sarky and mean towards me. But I feel like if I say anything everyone else will be like 'it's just a joke..' and say I'm too uptight.

But now that same friend has been talking to my other friend, who also has a boyfriend. They talk about sex and stuff and normally I'm cool with it, but I haven't done anything yet with a guy, and it makes me feel like a little kid and they're all grown up. Which makes me feel like sh*t so I end up not talking to anyone for the rest of the day.

I feel left out too - like if it's just me and one of the group in a class, we get on fine!.. then next lesson it's three of the four and they seem to ignore me. I try to contribute but it's like I'm a stranger trying to butt into a convo. It really sucks and I feel like a dick.

I really wish I could talk to them - the last of the four in my group of friends said she felt the same way sometimes.

You know how when you're with someone you don't really like, you sort of just 'mm' and *nod* and 'yeah' when they speak, not paying attention? But as soon as your friend comes along, you're really excited and 'Hey! Hi!' and stuff.

It sucks, but it seems to happen so much now.. I just want them to appreciate me rather than calling me a retard or a fucking idiot all the time. They're always complimenting each other too and hugging and saying 'I love you' but they seem to stay away from me, like I've got a disease.

I feel like a leper within my group of friends.. normal?

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  • wandertraveler
    14 years ago

    In high school --- your friends are completely based on a group of people you're forced to be with. When you get to college -- you can actually choose the type of people you want to be with. This helps. You will 'hate' your friends, far less.

    It's hard to get back into a group when what you're experiencing is going on. You need to definitely calm down about not being able to handle change. Change is coming. It's called life. So if you can be brave and face them and tell them you're not accusing them of anything but you feel really left out and dumped on alot and just ask them to help you get through this rough patch -- make it sound like you're not calling them bitches or anything -- they might pull you back into the fold and things could get better.

    Good luck!

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  • ilovewar
    14 years ago

    Long winded.

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  • CloverFish
    9 years ago

    If people you consider 'friends' don't celebrate with you when you succeed, but seem to always be there to tell you that you suck/are stupid, they're not really friends.

    It stinks, but I would bring it up that it's bothering you how they treat you all the time. If they get fussy and say you're too uptight, you have your answer.

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  • imaboutwhateverman
    13 years ago

    People are mean and bitchy to others because others have something that they lack. Perhaps its jealously. Also when people put you down it gives them a sense of power over you. You just need to say to yourself "fuck it, I don't like these people anyway, I can actually make other friends." Thats exactly what I did and my life its way more pleasant. Get rid of negative people in your life, its actually quiet easy.

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  • fizzbitchandgun
    13 years ago

    I went through this, and then I left school and realized I had enough friends to pick and choose. Just bear with them till you can afford to dump them because they don't sound like true friends at all.

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  • charliesmom
    13 years ago

    Dang. 2 sandwiches. Really?

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  • private420
    14 years ago

    Once you hate your friends, there not really your friends anymore.

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  • Chooseyourweapon
    14 years ago

    Leave them! Why associate with people you do not like?

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