Is it normal to hate my friends?
Well, I recently found out I have a strange taste in men. I usually chase the not so handsome ones for no reason and my friends can't seem to accept this. I meet some dude, think he's cute so I go up and ask for his number, return to the table and eat.
They stare at me, laugh and make subtle jokes among each other, thinking I never notice.
One of my best friends, let's call her D, never minds this. We play games like, that's my/your type, I/you would date him or He seems like the type of guy to [blank]. She's fun when I'm around people.
However, my other friends don't hang out with her, only I do. When I talk about guys I often get put down, saying my taste in men is terrible and asking guys for their number is 'not normal' and 'out of order'.
I retort by saying there is nothing wrong with being direct with guys, they risk rejection, why can't I?Then they procede to explain to me the part of a woman in dating, we should be submissive and soft and damsell like, I don't play that. I like my freedom and independance, I am NOT a brooding machine.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, they can spell that in Arabic, since I've said that a million times.
I've been hearing so much shit from them, even the ugliest friend among them is determined to get an Adonis, even if she looks terrible herself. I'm talking really overweight (no diseases) and generally not very pleasing to the eyes, to say it politely.
But she thinks she's Cinderella. I am humble about my looks, I don't think I'm Beyonce. I look below average. I'd rather hear that I'm actually not as ugly as I'd like to think than to get kicked from my pedestal and hear that I am actally Shrek.
They're high class with super high almost surreal, standards and are impolite towards my love interests. They keep looking down on me and call me a freak even. My current boyfriend of seven months, let's call him M, is very sweet, he likes me a lot and helps me with tons of stuff, as I help him.
He is really pale, has mild acne, glasses, thick eyebrows, braces and he's lanky. All his imperfection make him perfect to me, he's the epitome of humanity, someone who is not perfect and has man-made objects to assist him, even if I preffer for him to keep looking the way he looks now.
M has his flaws, but so do I. He chose to be with a short, black chick with suspicious brothers, anime and game obsession and I sometimes act ghetto without realising it.
I took him to meet them at a restaurant just outside of Amsterdam, where I live, and hoped it could go well.
They called him ugly, subtly, in his face, but he didn't miss it and left the restaurant. After the ordeal they told me I could get better, which made him doubt me. He thinks I'm with him as a joke or to air his grievances later and bully him. You get the picture? Like the bitchy cheerleader who dates the impopulat guy because she lost a bet.
They ruined everything. This has happened thrice before.
Is it normal to hate them for this?
Yes. | 21 | |
No. | 2 | |
In this situation, yes. | 8 | |
In this situation, no. | 1 | |
Other (Comment please) | 0 |