Is it normal to hate my father?
Yeah, I hate my father. He is a b*****d and crazy. Is it normal to hate your father more than anything/one else? (Guy)
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Yeah, I hate my father. He is a b*****d and crazy. Is it normal to hate your father more than anything/one else? (Guy)
Normal because most men don't know how to be a good father. To me fathers day is pointless. Most of them don't deserve a day.
If he's a ass then yes. But not if you're just mad at him for grounding you. You can hate your dad
yes. i know a lot of people (myself included) who either don't like, or totally hate their dads. i don't HATE my dad per se, but i don't like him because of what he did to my mother, and i haven't spoken to him in over 3 years.
have you ever thought why you hate your father insted of just hating him? and i assuming your still young yet have you ever realized that what you feel today may not be the case tommorow anyways that is my thoughts on the situation.
yeah its normal, my dad is a total asshole and a brilliant actor so everyone thinks he is an angel but he isint i cannot wait to leave home and get away from him or maybe my mother will see sense and divorce the basterd
My dad gets drunk and kicks the shit out of me, so i have a reason to dislike him, but i dont hate him, he chose to keep me and raise me as his son. And that alone deserves my respect.
I hated my father for years due to the unrelenting physical and emotional abuse. Since I was an only child till just before I started high school, it was just my mum and me. The fact that both Mum and I are tiny made it worse. I'm also the eldest grandchild on both sides of the family, so I had no older cousins. We were pretty isolated. I was homeless by 16, since CPS did nothing. Repeatedly.
But you know what I discovered? I hated him because I still cared. When you truly don't care about a person, situation or thing, you're indifferent. It doesn't take any of your resources. Hatred is closer to love than it is to indifference. So hatred is to do with anger or resentment, and very often, it is to do with fear or pain.
Many years after leaving, there was a family crisis. An external service was called in to help. It took quite a long time (years), but these days he doesn't lash out and the whole family is much closer because of it. At the outset I was quite sceptical and thought, Yeah, yeah, I've heard it all before. This time, though, Dad actually DID turn himself around. It was then that I realised that my hatred was really misdirected pain. I dearly wanted my dad to love me, but for so many years I believed he didn't, and that cut me to the bone.
So look closer. I'm sure that when you understand your hatred through peeling back the layers of pain, fear and resentment, you'll discover that the main reason you hate him is probably because you still care.
And that is totally normal.
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Yeah the above ^^^^^ comment captures it to me. If he has repeatedly behaved in an abusive and despicable way toward you or someone you love, then sure why wouldn't you feel that way. But if its just a disagreement you are peeved over or are using hyperbolic emotional black mail then get over yourself.
It depends, if you hate him because of something he did then that is reasonably normal however, if he's done nothing wrong then you got issues :S
Um I have thought of why I hate him. I wrote a 3 page (front and back, single spaced) list and sent it to him of why I do. Also I'm not alone- two other siblings disowned him and one ran away several times. And he has no friends caus he is crazy on top of everything else.
I don't see my dad anymore.... He is skitzo and very hard to handle. I don't hate him but he kinda freaks me out. He hit my mom. HE was a drunk. HE never worked.