Is it normal to hate my family after this?

Run dude, run.

I would hate my family as well. I think proper communication will make a huge difference. Once someone feels like they are being blamed for something, they get defensive and an argument ensues. When you have a discussion with your family, I'd simply keep it factual, and only talk about how you felt or how you interpreted the situation. No matter how insensitive and argumentative people in your family become, you have to be the one to keep a cool head, and maybe then they'll be able to calm down and have a conversation with you that doesn't end with you getting kicked out of your home for no reason. It's not fair, but it might just have to be what you have to do in order to get your point across. However, I don't know your family, and so this might not be a viable option, but it's the only advice I can think to give.

Yes your brother is a moron as well as an idiot and your family is not taking it seriously probably they are thinking that you are over projecting the incident... I think you need help from outside your house bring someone into debate so that your parent take the matter seriously and give a shutup call to your bully brother , However if your family has no affection toward you at all then nothing can work accept you walkout as soon as you are capable of something

What is your family doing for you? Anything? Nothing? Sometimes you have to make a plan and make your own way in the world because they family you landed in is toxic. Sometimes they get better while you take a leave of absence, but it sounds like you need to take care of yourself and forget about them for a while. I hope you can find a way in these difficult times to support yourself. Be different. Don't get some silly girl pregnant. Focus on what you want to achieve. It can be hard to prove yourself in this world. I hope the best for you. If you can find a way to learn a trade like plumbing, electrician, welding, trades like that make a good living and there is a lot of work right now. You could save up and start your own business some day. Be your own boss. Be in demand.

I'm sorry you're having this problem. My parents have been happily married for about 47 years now but we are most definitely a dysfunctional family. We are Caucasian; my mother is
Colombian and my father is Anglo Saxon. I always feel like the relationships my parents have with my sister and I are very much like two children who each have a pet dog of their own; my mother has my sister and my father has me. My parents are quite happy with one another but as far as my sister and I are concerned we are like two countries at war cycling between battles and short lived peace treaties.

This past weekend about 3 days after my 44th birthday my sister, who will be 41years old soon, and I had a brief physical altercation. My sister and I had been exchanging words when I pointed my finger in her face and she slapped me. It didn't hurt too terribly bad but did cause a red mark. I started to leave but inadvertently called her a really nasty name under my breath and then she just exploded screaming and trying to threaten me. I lost control and pinned her down. I guess I was just trying to assert my physical strength and show that I am NOT someone with whom to be played in such a manner. It was not my intention to injure her but in the course of pinning her down I twisted her arm and quite possibly sprained her wrist. I'm sorry for what happened, and I see my part in the whole incident but I can't take it back and now I'm forced to deal with the aftermath.

Initially I felt that everyone was against me and I'm still relatively sure that my mother routinely takes my sister's side and enables her behavior. When my younger sister slapped me my mother was standing right next to me and instead of telling her not to slap me my mother punched my arm and scolded me for sticking my finger in my sister's face. The worst thing my mother did was within two to five minutes after the altercation she denied completely that my sister had ever hit me to begin with which is what hurts the most about the whole ordeal.

Now my mother has forbidden my sister and I from being in her house at the same time. My sister took back the mug she gave me for my birthday and my mother even put a spin on that by saying that she did that so that I wouldn't feel bad or obligated to get her a birthday present. So much for Thanksgiving or Christmas in my family this year. The funny thing about all of this is that I will miss my sister's dog more than I could ever miss her. He's a sweet, gentle and loving little guy unlike his mistress.

I have done and will continue to try to do whatever I can to try to take care of myself around this problem. My heart goes out to you and your entire family, big brother included. If I could offer you any advice it would be to try to distance yourself from your family as much as possible; it may sound corny but detach with love. Focus on yourself, your healing and emotional growth. God bless you, OP!

P.S. The whole time I my poor dad was just sitting on the couch, minding his own business and watching sports on TV. In retrospect I wish I'd been sitting there with him. Although he didn't witness the slap my father is the only person in my family who has offered me any emotional or moral support.