Is it normal to hate my boyfriend but won’t leave him

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years Has always been Sexting other women sending pictures of his private parts and receiving pictures as well he said he has never cheated on me even though I even caught him Sexting his baby’s mother I feel like a part of me believes him that he’s never cheated on me even though I found out a couple of times he’s hung out with other women behind my back. he makes it such a convincing story that he just wants female friends and attention but he would never cheat on me. I’m 28 and he’s 26 and he has a seven-year-old son. He’s also Verbally abusive and physically abusive sometimes. We live together for the past nine months and I just feel like I’m trapped I feel like I hate him I feel like I have so much resentment for him but 50% of the time feel like I really love him and we have a good time together and he always embrace me with love when he’s not being mean to me. Recently I have discovered that every time he goes out to hang out on boys night he buy condoms but claims that that’s just him being a man and he doesn’t intend to use them. I really feel like I want to leave him I’m not even close to his son today is Thanksgiving and I really don’t want to be around his family I guess because of the inner hatred I have for him and resentment I have for him . I also got pregnant this year and he kind of forced me to have an abortion told me he wasn’t ready financially but he was mean about it. He has also created several different dating profiles he said it was all for attention. Please give me your honest advice I just feel like I wasted so much time he doesn’t even have that much money I’m the breadwinner and I just feel like I’m being used I just feel so stupid

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  • IrishPotato

    Run, Barry. Run!

    Really though get the fuck out. Sexting is cheating.

    Abusive people often lovebomb to convince the abused person in the relationship to stay.

    Those condoms? He's fucking other women. You're trying to convince yourself he's not a cheating abusive prick but you know he is. The sooner you tell yourself the truth, the better.

    Get out. Get our while you're still alive and have your sanity.

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  • kelili

    You are in a toxic relationship. Love is not enough to stay with someone. Be with someone who respects you. Love is blind and that is why you refuse to see the situation as it really is. You are desperately trying to convince yourself that there is something to be saved but believe me the earlier you get out of this the better it'll be for you. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

    For your own sake, quit him.

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  • BlindSpot

    You're trapped in a bubble of his lies and you see the truth right in front of you but you've been ignoring it because you feel like you will be alone without him. Lot's of women stay in abusive relationships for the same reason. He doesn't appreciate you and trust me, a time will come when he will kick you out of his life, so you go ahead and do it first. And you will see what a difference there will be in your life, peace, happiness, contentment. It's okay to be a single independent woman. In fact, it's the best. Whatever weight brings you down in life, cut those losses and free yourself. Only you can love yourself truly, put yourself first and fight for your own respect and dignity. You only need you.

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    • TMI90

      I do feel alone I have no family I have friends but I’m a private person it’s hard to talk about my downfalls because I’m used to being strong

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  • Ummitsstillme

    Tl, dr chicks love that bad boy dick

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  • Columbusbiguy

    If you worked full time and your job only paid you for 50% of the time, would you tolerate it? No, you would go somewhere else where you would get paid a full days wages for a full days work. Why be in a full time relationship where you have part time benefits?

    You are most certsinly being used for your kindness and money. If you do not go, you have no one to blame but you. I think you already knew the answer before posting.

    Its ok to leave a relationship and you will find love again.

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  • love_and_demons

    Sweetheart, take it from someone who has been there, and leave his sorry ass.

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    • TMI90

      What was ur experience

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  • Boojum

    Yes, you're wasting your time. The longer you stick with him out of inertia or fear of losing the occasional good moments, the more time you will have wasted. Picture yourself twenty years down the line and still with him after tolerating his current behaviour for another two decades. Do you think you'd look back on those years as time well-spent? If not, then resolve to do something to make sure that doesn't happen and take at least a small step towards that change tomorrow and every day after.

    Your story rings a bell. Have you posted about this before? If so, I'm sure you will have got much the same advice already.

    Far too many details to pick out for specific comment, so I'll mention just one: as a guy, I can't imagine any circumstance when I'd buy condoms if I didn't at least hope I'd need them. Is he seriously suggesting that his scumbag buds all put their condoms on the table at the start of the night out just to prove they're tooled up or something?

    The guy is playing you for a fool. I'm sure he's well aware of your psychological issues, and he's using those to get what he wants from you. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he and his bros all have a good laugh at how gullible and pliant you are and how he can make you dance to his tune. I know it's easy for others to say and much harder for you to act on it, but you really need to figure out how you can stop being a victim.

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    • TMI90

      I’ve never posted before I’m new.

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  • Tealights

    You're trap because you allow yourself to be.

    There are billions of people in the world, there's no excuse for why you can't find someone else. There's no excuse for why you can't leave someone who hurts you so deeply on many levels. You love him? Love yourself more than him; because after all, he doesn't love you, so there's no reason to stay.

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  • RoseIsabella

    No, honey, what you need to do is to run, not walk, away from this guy. He is using you, and abusing you! What city are you in, chica? You need to try to get some help!

    Forcing you to have an abortion, and then I'm sure he's probably had you babysit his child is very dehumanizing for you! You need to get away from his selfish, two-timing ass. He sounds like an evil person. I'm dead serious, girl!

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    • TMI90

      What u are saying is true I suffer from depression and abandonment issues

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      • RoseIsabella

        He's no good, you have to get away from him.

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  • nikkiclaire

    What advice do you need about your physically abusive, emotionally abusive and cheating, man child, boyfriend who treats you like a piece of shit?

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    • TMI90

      I guess I just want to know am I over reacting

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      • nikkiclaire

        If anyone ever lays a hand on you, regardless of if you are a man or a woman, that's it, game over. All of his other nonsense is inconsequential.

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      • Ellenna

        Being still with this arsehole is more like under reacting in my opinion.

        Honey, you deserve better! There must be at least one strong trustworthy non judgmental woman in your life you can talk to and get support to get away from him; if not, find one. Check out women's helplines if there are any you can access.

        I repeat: YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS!

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        • TMI90

          Thank u he makes me feel so bad about myself

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          • Ellenna

            And that makes him feel better than you, which he definitely is not! I do hope you can get out of this situation and then work on your self esteem before you get involved with anyone else.

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  • sl33pysheepgirl

    this is a toxic relationship that needs to end NOW.
    wish u luck <3

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  • RandomNumbers

    sounds like stocolmo syndrome. Really, get TF out of there

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