Is it normal to hate my best friend?

I've been bestfriends with, lets call her "Amy", for 2 years now. She is utterly amazing, we have the same humour, same intrests and everything. When I talk to her we both cant stop laughing and she makes me feel great. But I have another bestfriend called, lets say "Sarah", and we have been bestfriends for about 2 years too. We also have the same intrests, same humour and everything. To you this might seem like this is the perfect friendship group, right?

But for a year now, I secretly hate Amy. She can be so great at times and then other times she cant be so annoying! She kicks off at me for the slightist thing, the slightist disagreement turns into a argument. Also, secretly Sarah hates her too. Sarah and Amy have never had the best of relationships, Amy hates Sarah too. So basically I'm stuck Im the middle of my bestfriends.

I love Sarah and at times I wish It was just me and her and Amy was gone. Amy is just so.. inconsiderate. She tells me Im her best friend, and then at the weekend she'd go out with her other friends and boast about it. She'd paste all over Facebook and Twitter about how much of a great time she's having and KNOWING that I would read It and feel like sh*t. I know she does that just to piss me off. She'd also have a go at me If I cant come out to hang out with her or spend money, she constantly wants her own way and If she doesn't get it she'll have a fit. The other day she shouted at me because I bought my favourite sandwich from a shop and it was the only one and she wanted it.

While she's having a fit she'd say some horrible things to me and Sarah like " Go die. " "F*ck off, waste of space. " She'd punch walls and throw her things all over. One time we were walking to school and Sarah got into a disagreement with her about a concert and she flipped. She started throwing her bags at the walls and start punching them and shouted at her to " go f*cking die! ". Then when I stuck up for Sarah she'd just get worse, this was even in a public place.

She'd purposely start arguements with me over Twitter and Facebook just so everyone can see it and then laugh about it with her other friends later. She's made me cry so much, even at school, and she just doesn't care! She thinks she's always right and nobody can touch her.

For over 4 months now me and Sarah have been talking about College after we leave highschool later this year. We had it all planned out and Amy was going to go to another College so we were both happy. But then Amy now wants to go to my College. I DONT WANT HER THERE.

I am SO angry that she wants to follow me to College, I just want her to go away and leave me alone. But I cant find the corage to tell her to her face.

Do you think I'm over reacting?
What should I do?

Is THIS normal?

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Based on 45 votes (29 yes)
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Comments ( 12 )
  • 8Serene8

    Yeah you know what to do!

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  • frogs!!

    Ok I was in the same situation . In the end My "Amy" and I just stopped being friends, and I think it was for the best because no one wants a friend like that. Oh, and no matter how amazing she can be at times, if you secretly hate her, then she's not your best friend.

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  • Ok. Right now, the only thing that is holding you back is the way things USED TO BE between you two, right? I have been there in practically the exact same situation. It's hard, but distancing yourself would probably be best. It's no going to be easy. It will hurt, and you will miss her. But no amount of stress (this kind of stress) should be wasted on a 'friend'. Be brave. I did it. You can too.

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  • CherryMae

    I know how you feel. My Ex-bff Amy (yes thats her real name) did the same thing. She is so self centered and uses too many people. Everyone gets hurt trying to protect her and she dosen't even care.... She talks about all of my friends cuz she thinks she's better than all of them. My friends continue to fight with her but she thinks they have problems and not her. Wherever she goes she makes enemies and i always have a hard time sticking up for her cuz she always starts it. But my advice is: Just say it to her face.. You'll regret it for a while but the feeling will go away. Do whats right for you, not her.

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  • Ashlaaaay<3

    I'm in that exact situation right now except , my best friend did stuff with my brother & is like Im in love with him & now whenever she comes over or were like talking it's all about my brother and I get so sick of it . Like right now she just left with my brother nd my other friend & she ignored me the whoe time for him. I can honestly say I hate her

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  • Sillygoose

    Then tell her you don't want to be friends with her. What's the point of having someone around that you dislike? Be honest and take charge, it's not just her in the friendship, it's a two person deal, with you being the second half and you need to tell her what is going on, or you will possibly be miserable with your decision to keep her around for such a long time that you will inevitably commit justifiable homicide or suicide. You decide.

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  • SoccerStud88

    dramaaaaaa

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  • CrazyNiteOwl

    one of my best friends is like that, i just told her i had a problem with her anger. she ended up asking me for help on how to stop getting so angry. this girl seriously needs anger management though. you and your friend Sarah need to sit down with amy and calmly let her know how she makes you two feel and that you should have some time apart until she can sort her anger out. and if she doesn't or ends up getting mad then to be honest it doesnt look like you'll be missing out on anything important, but give it time

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  • drewbster

    And I quote Placebo's cover song 'Running up that hill' - "there's so much hate for the ones we love." this couldn't be any more true. Look at a stranger on the street, we don't hate them, or even a politician, or actor as much as we hate our best friend sometimes!

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  • Carolinne

    Coward.
    You know what to do.

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  • larrythephoneguy

    yes in my life when people say that I'm their best friend I think how pathetic they are to think I'm their best friend when I can hardly stand being around them

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  • kellstar

    I had the same situation and one of my bestfriends was actually called Sarah but my other friend and Sarah never had bad words to eachother and the other one didn't have fits! They handled it much more mature. Sounds like Amy is jealous of your friendship and she seriously needs to grow the f up!

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