Is it normal to hate/love your best firends?

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So, basically me and her have been best friends for almost 4-5 years now, and i love her a lot, I've always been there for her, and so has she for me. But she's a really weak-minded person. And she can be easily influenced by anyone, and that's what was worrying me. Recently she started doing things that she promised me she'd never do, and she confessed to me, and it was the first fight we actually had. We didn't talk for ages, but eventually made up. Now she's acting really childish, and keeps bugging me about that thing, and telling me she's gonna do it again. I dont know why I just start feeling hatred once she starts doing, i feel like i dont want her in my life anymore. But i still love her. Is it normal to feel like this? Sorry if it wasn't explained that well. :/

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  • Pika-girl
    9 years ago

    I'm like that with my best friend... FOR STEALING MY LIFE! But then, she's lovable...

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    • mcfaggot
      9 years ago

      Hahahaha I know what you mean (:

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  • Shily666
    9 years ago

    I'm like that too with two of my friends. I dunno whether to keep them or give up on them. They don't even talk with me that much or even hang out anymore.

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    • mcfaggot
      9 years ago

      For example now, they just called me up for an emergency, and I'm gonna go, because I do love them. It's just when they start acting weird and saying they're not gonna tell me what they're doing if I don't let them do it; That's when I get annoyed.

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      • Shily666
        9 years ago

        You could tell them that if they don't stop their irrational behaviour, then you won't be friends anymore. If they don't stop, then just ignore them. But if they come back apologizing and if you notice some change, then maybe you can be friends again.

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        • mcfaggot
          9 years ago

          I wish I could do that. It's not that easy with her, we're so close, it's like more than family-zoned. No one understands what we mean.

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    • mcfaggot
      9 years ago

      For me, we're hanging out almost everyday, but I dont know, she's being really stupid recently, and it's really annoying me.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    What is "that thing"?

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    • mcfaggot
      9 years ago

      Several things, she wants to try smoking (several herbs). The other week I asked her if anything had happened when she met up with a guy, and she said no no. Then a week later she confesses to me that only very small things happened. I know I shouldn't be getting mad, but it's the fact that she doesn't tell me things upfront, and I feel that she'll eventually start hiding things from me.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        I'm sorry, sugar, but I'm afraid it's quite codependent of you to make such a big deal about what your friend does and doesn't do when she's not even around you. Accept that you are powerless over the thoughts, feelings and actions of others and you will find yourself feeling much happier. You can, however, set a boundary with your friend that you don't want her smoking tobacco or any herbal substances when she's in your car, house or with you or you can't be around her.

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