Is it normal to hate her this much?

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I've been with my boyfriend for eight years now, things are well except for one thing, his sister. She has gotten strangers to approach us and tell us to break up, she purposely ignores me and wont look me in the eyes, her dog attacked my dog and she threatens to bring it around when my dog is at my boyfriends home, she has even told me that her dog would gladly eat my kitten. This girl is a real thorn in my ass! Sometimes she behaves normally and when you remove your guard, she strikes again with something trifling. 8 years later and I'm fed up, I hate the way she breathes, I hate her face, I hate her laugh, the way she walks and her ugly character. I've gotten into hating her so much that I now rant and rave endlessly about how much I hate her to my boyfriend. When he defends me, she isn't hesitant to make herself the victim; she will even get his parents in the mix to attempt to force him to apologize. Is it normal that after eight years of this crappy 'torture' that I go into hate frenzies and just absolutely hate EVERYTHING about her?

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Based on 62 votes (52 yes)
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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    It's normal, but you're just gonna have to deal with it if you want to be with him. Hate all you want, but keep it to yourself if you can. He's probably just as tired of you hating his sister as he is of her behavior. The best thing to do is diminish the hate by trying to understand her actions. Maybe even have a mature talk with her about the nonsense and ask her why she doesn't like you.

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  • Middle77
    10 years ago

    I would say maybe she doesn't want to lose her brother, but eight years? Never heard of a sibling hate lasting that long, maybe you could ask him to ask her why she hates you. Of course you could always be nice to her that always seems to work, best of luck

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Eight years is a long freaking time. I can't help but wonder if there's more to this story. Was there perhaps some awful incident between the two of you in the beginning?

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    • Poolnoodle
      10 years ago

      Well, they're white and rich and I'm Hispanic and my mother is unfortunately poor. So we started off on the wrong foot there. I've been nothing but courteous. I like to keep more good behavior in my 'bank' than bad behavior, so no I have not addressed any of their behavior in a negative way. I've attempted to address this ordeal through talking and right off the bat I was hit with complete defensiveness. His parents were this way once upon a time, but they have since warmed up to me, his sister...not so much.
      No, no awful incidents, I have never gotten their son into trouble, I don't engage in destructive behavior, his grades have never plummeted while being with me. I just honestly don't understand.
      There's been plenty of times where I'm so hurt by things said or done that I leave work crying my eyes out. I honestly think she persist messing with me simply because I am being courteous to her. I'm just as confused as you are.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        She sounds like a codependent control freak. I don't know her but I get the impression she wants to control other people a lot. It sounds like you're keeping it together pretty good though. I think she'd be a lot happier if she could accept she's powerless over her brother's relationship with you. It sounds like you're pretty smart though in understanding this is her issue. I'd be willing to suspect she's probably not a very happy person which tends to be the case with mean people. I wish you all the best.

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  • seeking
    10 years ago

    It's not easy trust me, I know. At least it's not the in-laws. All I can say is that it sounds like she will never change, it has been 8 years. You will have to deal with her if you plan on making your life with him. He needs to put a stop to the whole thing. Unfortunately, some people never change. Best of luck to you

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  • cult666
    10 years ago

    How about doing something? Tape the bitch then show it to the family.

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    Cut her brake lines.

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      No first u start with the old flaming poo bag, the potato in the tailpipe, then put a ball bearing under the cap of the tire to make the shrader valve leak all the air out, then punch a hole in her radiator , then cut the brake lines

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      • dirtybirdy
        10 years ago

        Brilliant! How about some shuggah in the gas tank and birdy poo on the windshield for good measure.

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        • KaffeInjection
          10 years ago

          Yeaaaah... She lives in a HOUSEEE.. Shesss got a boring jooob!..

          YEAHH..

          She tries to take ugly men home at the local PUB..

          But nobody wants to fuck heeerrr..

          Fuuuuck heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeer

          *50 minutes of boring guitar solos*

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        • shuggy-chan
          10 years ago

          I notice all our prank revolve around cars, our gearheads are showing =D

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          • dirtybirdy
            10 years ago

            I do what I can :p

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It sounds like you want to have sex with her.

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  • bigol'dick
    8 years ago

    She sounds like a real bitch to me. I would hate her, too.

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  • londonbridge
    10 years ago

    What a bitch punch her for me

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  • zebraprintedroses
    10 years ago

    You should have you dog attack her.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    This is not healthy don't keep the hate inside it will keep you alive see if you can make an anonymouse friend on some social website and vent.

    It's amazing what you can tell a stranger and not someone close to you.

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  • KaffeInjection
    10 years ago

    Noo noo.. That's like SOOO MUCH NOT NORMAL MAN!.. You gotta be like the first HUMAN ever to "HATE" someone man.. That's so much NOT normal at all, how does it feel to be the first human ever on earth to hate someone?..

    Sooo much not normal maaaaaan!

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