Is it normal to hate her

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kinda long sorry. I dated a girl for over a year. She was in college and I was still in highschool. It was a long distance relationship but we saw eachother pretty frequently and made it almost all the way through her freshman year. A few weeks ago she tells me she wants to be in an open relationship, and I told her i did not but she kept wanting it so i said fine. She kissed someone, and I was heartbroken. I told her we were done, but she said she wanted to make it up to me and it was terrible and she never wanted to kiss anyone else. Its about 5 weeks since we broke up and i just foundout that she had sex with someone about 2 weeks after we broke up. Shes been lying about everything getting mad at me for taking prom pics with my friend and just about any other bullshit she could pull. I could have hooked up with someone a few weeks after we broke up but i didnt because i didnt want to hurt her. Is it normal that I absolutly hate her. For lying to me, for pretending like she cared then stepping all over my heart, for having sex with at least one person and doing go knows what with 4 other people just weeks after she broke my heart initially? The weirdest part is our whole relationship she liked me more and begged me to stay with her. I just feel so betrayed, and I think she is a terrible heartless person. Is it justified?

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    i agree with the previous comments. like rayst typed, she did try to "warn" you. and as lc mentioned, this isn't the end of the world, there will be plenty of other chicks that will break your heart. you should think of becoming more open to the idea of an open relationships. at least give it a try. you'll be surprised as to how pleasant they can be! but you're young and you still have tons of time to experiment an explore all of that! be safe and good luck!

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  • rayst
    12 years ago

    It is normal for you to feel this way, however you should try to see it from her side. The girl told you she wanted to "meet" new guys, what did you expect? She is young, she wants to live more experience. I feel you man, same thing happened to me with my first lover except she didnt wait to break up to flirt with other guys

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    open relationships, fuckbuddies or whatever it's called nowadays is bullshit. just fck when you feel like and never bother with a relationship of any sort.

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  • femmefatale12
    12 years ago

    High school and each other.... Both 2 words. That's why it didn't work put, because you're not the brightest bulb.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    The thing is sometimes guys overlook their mistakes and think what the girl did is not justified. My bf was abusive (physically verbally and sexually) so I cheated but of course it was my fault. I'm not saying that you did anything wrong maybe you didn't but don't forget that that is a possibility

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    Alright dude, you'll understand college when you get there. It's full of new experiences and finding out who you are and what you want to do with your life. It's normal for you to hate her but did you really expect anything else through this major transition in her life? I have to give her props for at least asking for an open relationship but you should have just ended it then since you didn't agree. It's time to move on since she apparently is. I doubt she's as sad as you are.

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