Is it normal to hate children this much?

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I have a nephew who is 3 years old and I can honestly say I hate him. When he was born, I was so happy about being an auntie for the first time, and at such a young age (15). I babysat for my sister when she went back to work and me and my nephew were close, but I didn't like him. Now he's 3 and I can't stand being around him. I want to violently lash out at him sometimes, probably about 80% of the time I'm around him. He's so bratty and loud; he screams when he doesn't get his own way and I know that's what kids do, but I just get so annoyed and I think "my sister went through some serious pain and debt to get you here, appreciate it you little sh*t." Because she did and my sister is always asking me for money because she spends all of it on that brat. He doesn't appreciate anything and it grinds my gears. I've always said I'm too selfish to have children as well, because I know if my child was unappreciative of anything, I would say 'I went through nine months of pain for you!' and it would be a horrible childhood for my child, so I don't want kids. I just really hate children, is this normal?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Probably not normal, but certainly understandable. Where is it written that one must love, like, tolerate or even allow children to exist in your presence, even if they are related to you?
    Join me, my wife and a few others and distribute this wonderful new child repellant we've invented.

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  • loopoo
    9 years ago

    I don't like kids, never want them.

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  • ShinyLugia
    9 years ago

    I think it's perfectly alright for many people to dislike/hate kids. People always go on how "Oh, but YOU were a baby/child once!" and "If ya hate kids, then you MUST hate yourself!". The answer is No to both. Yeah, all of us were babies/kids but those who dislike both are under NO obligation to love them or even like them. I'm sure people like you just had many bad experiences with bratty, unruly kids, their entiltled parents (Or all of them in some cases), and to me, that's fine. Even if there isn't a legit reason for disliking/hating them people are entiltled to feel however they want.

    So to put it shortly, it's normal.

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    • Silencure
      9 years ago

      thank you (:

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I can understand this. I wouldn't go as far to say I hate kids and some of them can actually be cool, but most aren't.
    I didn't even like other kids when I was a kid.
    What annoys me the most is when they fucking scream. I hate that shit so much. I did a lot of dumb shit as a kid but I didn't scream when I didn't get my way.
    I'm very against child abuse but I cannot say that I haven't thought about smacking a screaming kid in the store. Those kind of thoughts cannot be helped but it's important not to act on them.

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    • Silencure
      9 years ago

      Thanks for the comment :) !

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    try reading a book on parenting, it's not easy but if you do it right you can create a wonderful person.

    WARNING: don't read "To train a child" by Michael and Debbie Pearl, they are a couple of sick freaks that should be in prison.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It's understandable. There's bad and good in every human demographic, and children, just like their grown counterparts, have their less savory candidates among them.

    I think what may be worst of all is the obnoxious policy of unconditional blamelessness regarding anyone under the age of 18 - "WHAT?! How dare you speak to him like that?! He's a CHILD! A BABY! He's INNOCENT! I don't care what he did wrong, he's still a CHILD and you're a monster for actually getting angry with a CHILD!" Uh...yyyeah, fuck you.

    Bottom line: He's her kid; not yours. You've got your own life to live and your own responsibilities to tend to.

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    • Silencure
      9 years ago

      Thank you, I appreciate your comment (:

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  • Barracuda
    9 years ago

    kids drain your energy. i find that they take from you time that coulve been spent doing other things. just speaking for myself, i once was going to "study" for my exam, and i ended up baking cookies with my niece. that time i coulve spent doing productive things for my academic growth, i spent filling in the fleeting whims of a five year old.

    its just what they do. she would NOT stop bugging me until i played with her. even she knew i was trying to study. kids are inherently selfish. its in their nature. its not their fault. they just dont know any better.

    but they sure as hell are annoying. bottom line. you are spot on wit that

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Kids do cry, scream, throw fits, poop their pants, whatever, and it's totally normal to be annoyed by that. They require guidance, discipline, and massive amounts of teaching, and I think people like me and you don't have the patience or desire to pump that energy into them.

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  • Crusades
    9 years ago

    Why did you delete my initial comment?

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    • Silencure
      9 years ago

      i didn't :/

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    I think I love you, I didn't think anyone else in the world hatted children like I do.

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  • Silencure
    9 years ago

    A note from me, the writer of the post, I don't want to hate kids, I didn't plan on feeling this way about my nephew and I didn't come here to be offended. All I want to do is be helped, if anyone has advice, that's brilliant, but if you're just here to say 'you're crazy stay away from kids' then just piss off. This is supposed to be a nice community of people who help others distribute their feelings.
    The subtitle for this website is 'play nice'. So do it.
    I already feel bad for feeling this way, don't make it any worse or I will report you.

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    • Crusades
      9 years ago

      I think you should come down. I'm not gonna judge you or say you are crazy because i can say for myself that i don't really like children but you need to understand some facts of life. You can't expect a child that young to make the difference between wrong and right. That's ridiculous.It's like expecting a dog to write an essay. Nobody will force you to like kids or to be around them if you don't enjoy them. But just blatantly hate them because they don't reach the level of knowledge of a responsible adult is just irrational and stupid of you.
      You said that you were 15 when you babysat him so i suppose you're like 18 now. Which makes it understandable somehow to not have patience with an infants because, at your age you're naturally focused on your own things, but keep in mind that being a child, being immature and unaware of your surroundings is a natural thing for an infant. Now for a 14 or 15 year old, that's another story. There is no excuse for a child over 12 to act like a moron. But for a 3 year old. Come on now... get a grip on reality. I'm pretty sure you were bratty yourself at that age.
      Now usually, i kinda go off on people like you because i find it irrational for an adult to expect ridiculous things out of their environments but i will try to understand this generation of young kids who are incredibly selfish and defiant. Because this is what modern society teaches young people. And expecting an argument and a discussion based on common sense from young folks nowadays is like what you expect out of that 3 year old. So i won't bother elaborating.

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      • Silencure
        9 years ago

        of course i don't expect a 3 year old to be rational! it's ridiculous that people in the comments seem to think that i expect a child to be understanding and mature! it just annoys me because a child is /not/ understanding and mature etc. and there's nothing anyone can do about it because they're children. i hate children because they are the way they are.

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  • Dot123
    9 years ago

    If a kid gets out of hand slap them upside the head.

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    • Silencure
      9 years ago

      i don't think violence towards children is appropriate, although i do sometimes feel like hitting my nephew, i definitely wouldn't. my dad hit me as a kid for discipline so maybe that has something to do with it

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