Is it normal to hate birthdays

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Hi, it's my birthday today and even tho I celebrated it on the weekend I'm still finding it hard to treat it as a normal day which is strange as I never really celebrated it as a kid either there would be no cake or presents the most I would get is a card but as a 26 yr old married woman I thought someone would make more of an effort....my own husband maybe??? But no he managed to book a half day off for his birthday which was 5 days before mine but just so happened to "forget" to book anytime off for mine so not only did I spend the whole day cleaning and looking after our 3 yr old I got to spend it alone too he even gave me the same birthday cards as last yr from the same crappy garage with the same crappy message inside which isn't even a birthday card....it's an anniversary card and as a present he gave me paper for the printer! But the thing that pisses me off the most is as soon as he walks through the door he doesn't even listen to any issues or concerns I want to discuss straight away I'm "being stupid" and I'm so upset that he hasn't made more of an effort no flowers, wine or anything I just wish I hadn't made so much of an effort for his birthday i actually can't wait till the day is over the person who was supposed to love me most couldn't give any less of a shit I didn't even get a card of my own family yet I manage to send one to each if them every year why do I bother with these people???

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  • Thehusband1980
    9 years ago

    But what about if you're husband spent £800 on your birthday celebration on your birthday weekend taking you to a fancy hotel and posh restaurant and trip on London eye and cinema... literally anything goes you name it and he done it that weekend. And also what about if your husband also offered to cook you a slap up meal of your choice on your actual birthday? And maybe he didn't forget to book the time off... Maybe he actually couldn't because other staff members were off that day? I'm sure he would have asked. At least he got you a card... Even if it was the same one as last year it should be the thought that counts right because I'm sure he didn't realise and do it on purpose! And maybe he didn't only get you paper... Maybe he got you ink as well which isn't the most romantic but still cost him £70? Sounds like your only issue really should be with the fact he initially didn't stop and listen to your concerns but sure after you had expressed how upset it made you he would have very calmy said "ok babe please tell me what's wrong".
    Now if that's the way it went down then I think you're being a bit harsh.

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago

    Bummer

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Sounds to me as if the honeymoon is over, way over. Perhaps his lack of attention to your birthday is the last straw, but I'm guessing it's not the only one in the pile.
    I think you two need to sit down and have an open, honest talk about where this marriage is headed and what might be done to repair it, or your child will be living in a single parent household pretty soon.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Im sorry to hear about that. My birthdays and christmases have been that way for the past 16 years. So I feel your pain.

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