Is it normal to hate being told that you are beautiful all the time?

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some guys can't stand a girl that can't accept a compliment. But I am so SICK & TIRED of being told that I am beautiful. I have seen better looking people so it is very annoying. Strangers randomly nickname me "beautiful" when I dont even want them looking at me in the first place. But what can I say, its their eyes. And it's crazy because once apon a time, I didn't think I was pretty but now I can't stand to be stared at.

Is it normal to be proud of my looks but at the same time, hate being told that I am pretty/beautiful?

SN: this is a serious question. Only serious responses please and thank you :)

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago | pl

    Really? Cause I hate being told I'm ugly all the time, but glad your life is so awful. ;P

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      Honestly, do people actually come up to you and tell you you're ugly? Even if you are (which, if that is you in the profile pic, you're not)... how can people be capable of that, and why?

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        Well it doesn't happen anymore really, I was just making a joke and did not expect to get voted to the top. XD

        But back in high school my nickname was the anti-boner. I think I just live in a shitty area D:

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        • BeautyBodyBrains
          11 years ago

          Aaw what jerks :(

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          You're fine, and need to learn to love yourself and honour yourself regardless of what you look like. I hope you grow out of your insecurities... it is a tough road indeed & I'm on it too!

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    • robbieforgotpw
      11 years ago

      Don't hate me cuz I'm beautiful.
      Anyone know who coined that phrase??
      Answer to come...

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      • BeautyBodyBrains
        11 years ago

        It was Miss Keri baby (Keri Hilson)

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        • robbieforgotpw
          11 years ago

          She's the latest but there was someone before her...

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Do u really get told that though? :(

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        See my reply down below so I'm not sounding like a broken record. :P

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  • kelili
    11 years ago | pl

    A picture would have given me the opportunity of giving an unbiased opinion.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      I can only give you an idea. People say I look like Rihanna minus the forehead and hazel eyes but I am a little shorter (5'3) and thicker (122 lbs) I am mixed (Puerto Rican, white & black.) Wish I could post a picture but we are trying to remain anonymous, right?

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      • lufa
        11 years ago

        I don't find Rihanna attractive. Perhaps you're in a town full of uglies so you stand out.

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        • BeautyBodyBrains
          11 years ago

          Me either, so maybe so...

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          • lufa
            11 years ago

            well either way if people think you're hot, take full advantage, marry some rich guy and get a good pre-nup signed. :)

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      • kelili
        11 years ago

        You're not just beautiful but striking then.

        You should enjoy because beauty doesn't pass the test of time. So instead of complaining enjoy the benefits that your figure is giving you. LAter in life you will notice that beautiful women are taken less seriously than the average women and they are often thought to be silly. So enjoy now that you have time.

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        • BeautyBodyBrains
          11 years ago

          Well thank God im in school, a year away from my Bachelor's!

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      • reginaFalangi
        8 years ago

        You sound absolutely beautiful from your description.

        That being said, you are totally right:
        STRANGERS HAVE NO RIGHT TO CALL YOU ANYTHING.
        Women are not decoration, we don't need or want to be told what others think of our appearance all the time, regardless of how "flattering" that's supposed to be.
        The fact that men feel they are entitled to tell us their unwanted opinion is sexist and is part of rape culture mentality that is still so normal in our society.. That's why feminism is still necessary

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    With your username; BeautyBodyBrains, I would've never thought that you'd hate being called beautiful or given compliments.

    Although, I could see how it could irritate you after a while though. But still, soak this up now, because who knows what you'll be looking like after you pop out a few kids, or when you're much older. ;)

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Thank you!

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    First world problems :D

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Lol you are such an ungrateful bitch.

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    • MeatCusion
      8 years ago

      She's not ungrateful if people only pay attention to her looks and not her brain, if men are always trying to mess with her and she can never figure out who values her as a person and who doesn't, if people keep giving her shit like "you need to walk in high-heels and a skirt" or "don't do that! You'll ruin your looks" and treat her like some delicate little doll. She's only pissed that people seem to value appearance over anything else and are blinded by it. I know, this shit that BeautyBodyBrains described and what I just described HAPPENS TO ME ALL THE DAMN TIME solely because everyone thinks I'm pretty. It sucks.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Thank you too!

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  • awesometodd
    11 years ago

    Wow some people's "problems"

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Not awesome todd.

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      • awesometodd
        11 years ago

        Not noopie poe.

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        • Terence_the_viking
          11 years ago

          I'm yet to see something totally awesome todd

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            You two are both awesome. Don't spoil it now

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  • Imsupernormal
    11 years ago

    Everything can get annoying when you hear it over and over again.

    Maybe you should try finding a guy who doesn't think you're "beautiful"

    You sound like the type of girl who like guys who treat you like "shit" but in the sense that they do not give into everything you say just because you're hot.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Perhaps you feel that it is too forward for people to be commenting on your appearance. Or perhaps there is just a lot of vanity in your gripe about compliments.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Great logic (the first one)

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      • Mando
        11 years ago

        OK so pride and vanity are not issues for you. That leaves you with handling your feelings. Anyone can understand how you may feel objectified, and beauty can bring unwanted attention. But do try to set that aside.

        If you are getting too many well-intended compliments from those who know you, then take them aside as individuals and let them know that while you appreciate it you really don't need continuous compliments on how you look and that there is more to you than that.

        Strangers who are just unintentionally intrusive or intentionally rude - ignore. As you say, it is their eyes, but it is not your problem.

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        • reginaFalangi
          8 years ago

          Very good advice, i was beginning to worry no one took this seriously.

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        • BeautyBodyBrains
          11 years ago

          I sincerely appreciate your responses! Who knew I qualified for an online mentor!? :D

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  • ValleyofVung
    11 years ago

    Anything can be annoying if you're told you're *this* all the time and not seen for other things.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Thanks for somewhat understanding :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    say "Duh" and roll your eyes, soon you hear it no more

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      But wouldnt that give off the impression that im conceited? That's the last thing I want anyone to think. But I do say "duh bitch" in my head lol!

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        yes youre right. just say "I know"

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  • PumpkinKate
    11 years ago

    *vomits profusely all over this post*

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  • Penguins
    7 years ago

    I kinda get what you're saying. I don't think I'm actually that pretty but I've had strangers come up to me just to tell me I'm beautiful. It's so uncomfortable. And no one really understands how creepy it is to ALWAYS be hit on by guys, especially if they're a lot older than you. But if you say stuff like this out loud, people will hate you for it.

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  • Itisok
    11 years ago

    Um being buried alive you cant breath

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  • Itisok
    11 years ago

    Dude I don't know because people always think I'm pretty

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  • bristexai
    11 years ago

    Ebony Dark'ness Dementia Raven Way?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Seriously? Seriously, I think you're overreacting, probably. And that might be because of some deepseated insecurity or something, I dunno. Or maybe it's because you're overcompensating, and you really take a lot more pride in your good looks than you care to admit to yourself, so when you're told you're beautiful you "feel" offended and annoyed because you want to feel humble.

    Just my two cents. I don't know you of course, so I could be completely wrong.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      I really do want to be humble. You're right. Thank you :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I am beautiful. My fiancé is even more beautiful than me. Our kids are gonna be stunning

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Aww! I would love to see them :)

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Haha cool I will let you know in a few years when they come about

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "I have seen better looking people so it is very annoying." Do you feel like you don't deserve to be called beautiful

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      I do feel worthy but get annoyed with hearing it all the time. I just don't like to stand out, I guess.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Damn you don't realise how lucky you are. I hate being plain looking and short. You never risk being dateless and have the power of choice. I lack this power, am lonely most of the time and am forced to settle.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      The attention can be a bit much for me at times because like I said, I was like a swan princess.

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals
        11 years ago

        Wanna swap?

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I dislike it too! I never know how to reply. Most of the times maybe they don't even think i'm beautiful, they are just flirting with me, and it's a nice thing, but iunno, it kinda embarrasses me and it would be easier if they didnt :p

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Thank you!! Somebody understands :)

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  • valisque
    11 years ago

    She's beautiful.... how does she live with herself??? -__-

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      LMAO you all are lucky that I have a huge sense of humor! I am being so serious. I knew that some would not understand but thanjs for going easy on me! :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    In college there was this pretty ugly girl. People called her beautiful because they liked her, not because she was actually beautiful.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    You must really hate yourself to not like being complimented you dirty beesnatch.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Thank you! :)) *eyeroll*

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    I get told I'm beautiful, but it's not the only thing they say. It doesn't get annoying, but it does get annoying when they follow me around or keep wanting my attention when I have other things to do.

    I don't see how you could let this bother you so much. Just take the compliment and keep it moving.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      You know, part of that maybe the problem (the following around & wont stop talking to me) but I just wanna be called by name, especially by the ppl who know my name. If somebody's like "hey beautiful" I automatically feel like they're gonna make a pass at me and most of the time they do try to. I guess thats what I dont like. Thanks for your response btw.

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      • NotFloydzie
        11 years ago

        You should tell them then. Correct them, just say "Thank you but my name is (your name here)." You're welcome.

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        • BeautyBodyBrains
          11 years ago

          Perfect! Thanks again :)

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  • BeautyBodyBrains
    11 years ago

    I dont wanna be ugly of course but for a long time after hearing it became so annoying.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Have I ever told you that you're beautiful?

    *queue James Blunt*

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Maybe. You could be my neighbor for all I know :D

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Who?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Do you really get it that often that it has started to get annoying?

    I mean, it's better than being laughed at and made fun of. I'd take "You're beautiful" over that any day.

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  • (s)aint
    11 years ago

    I can relate to that! I know i´m beautiful and intelligent and fun to be around (Yeah it´s alright to love yourself, shuddup<3) but when others approaches me and tries to start a conversation about how good i look and such ...I can´t help but get annoyed. I rather have people approach me as if i was a genderless creature and NOT a potential penis-embracer. I usually reply with: Yeah, i know. And that´s usually the end of that. You are perfectly sane,bro

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