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I have a 2 year old son and I love him to death but he is driving me to points of insanity. I feel helpless when trying to disipline, the hits me and bites me, he screams and trashes the house. Is it normal to hate being a mom at this stage of parenting??
Don't feel you're alone. Any parent who says that they LOVE being a parent and that their kid is always an angel is a damn liar. They're just trying to upstage others and hide their own feelings. They're also probably on drugs. It gets better but only if YOU put your foot down. Don't tolerate that kind of behavior or he'll grow up to be a miserable monster.
Try this: take him off all sugar and red dyes. Get him out of the house. Walk him until he is tired or let him go crazy in the park. Just try to wear him out in a positive way. I had onelike that, too. He nearly drove me to distraction. Another thought: my son was allergic to milk. It makes them wild. No caffiene sips, either. Good luck!
I went through the exact same thing with my son! He's almost six now and the last 2 1/2 years have been wonderful! When you get frustrated it just intensifies your childs behavior. I had a very hard time keeping my cool when my son would act out but when I did it made a huge difference. You could also try distracting him with something when he starts to act that way. The less you react, the less he will act out.
My mum use to kick my ass if i fucked around
Maybe you should try that
Let them know that when they fight/bite whatever they are gonna get hit
Simple as
Kids are not suppose to be acting this way. They have people you can go to that help you teach out of control children.
I agree w no sugar or red dye. Also turn his door knob around so the lock is on the outside. When he hits you, time out until he composes himself. The trick is u need to stay calm and when he is contained u can.
good advice from the two above. get in control now. he isn't going to change naturally, you need to help him.
I have four sons!! Trust me! Yes it's hard, but only as hard as you allow it to be! Time out, take things away, reward good behaviour, do not tolerate bad behaviour and make sure you are always consistant! They are smart and crafty, be smarter!!! You can do this!!!!! Yes, it's hard, yes it's normal to get bitter and resentful, but don't lose focus, you are the boss!
Read parenting books and info on line. Get the child in line. He's acting this way because you have allowed it because maybe you don't know how to stop it?! There is help out there and info! Get on top of it before it gets worse! It will get worse if you don't stop it! Be strong be brave! You decide the fate of this!!!
I would hate being a mom a whole lot more if my 4 year old daughter ever acted like that. I got pregnant. I didn't choose to have a kid. I love my daughter more than anything. But it wasn't what I wanted at the time. Sometimes I hate being a mom but it's mostly during those times when my kid just refuses to listen. Other times it's very rewarding. It's very unfortunate that your son is so rebelious at such a young age. I think it's less normal for kids to act out so violently at this age then it is for you to hate being a mom. We can love the devil outta our kids but still regret the choices we made.
You may want to try nanny 911 or some sort of child therapy because I'd venture to guess, there must be some influence on the child that would cause him to be acting so violent. Again, he's very young.
What is your situation? Does he have a dad who lives in the same household? Older siblings? Go to daycare? Go to see a "weekend" father on Saturdays? Do you know EVERY thing about your child and what he is exposed to when you're not there?
It may be serious or it could be as simple as changing the way he is disciplined. My personal advise, IE: the thing i'd do if my child acted this way, find the source or reason for his acting out. Use your motherly inutition to decide what is the best action. Consider talking to professionals. Doctors, therapists, counselors. Whatever it takes. It may not be "normal" but your definately not alone.
My kids are adults now but I felt the same way. My two kids fought all the time. Kicking, bitting, breaking windows. I feel your pain. They are 26 and 22 now. They finally started talking 5 months ago after 5 years of hateful silence. It will get better.
This is totally normal. I'm a mom too and when my son was 2, it was the hardest year of my life. Now he is 11 and I love being a mom. Just hang in there and stay strong. I know you can make it. Don't worry!
Get off of your ass and put them in place. They hit you? You obviously don't have a very reliable male role model in the kids' lives. It's not being a mom that you hate, it's your life. Where's the belt?!?