Is it normal to harass a girl online after she lead you on?

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Girl i met had a boyfriend. but waiting a very long to tell me (in the most nonchalant and passive aggressive way). I was very forward and up front from the get go. So we just clicked and that's where the attraction came from.

However after breaking contact with her for a couple of months. I found out she had a blog, needless to say i used the anonymous comment section on her blog to ask her stuff.

The questions started off very general as so not to give up my identity.But she replied back to many comments acting like a complete stuck-up cow.

so then i started trolling her.

Part of my knows its wrong. Part of me just wants a bit of revenge without any consequences. But a greater part of me jut thinks it's funny.

she has allot of online friends. And im not the only one who dislikes her. So my identity is safe.

TLDR: IS it normal: Trolling an ex online for fun and revenge because she broke your heart.

Also: could you please leave a comment if you think my actions are considered bully. or am i just speeding up karma :)

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ProseAthlete

11 years ago

You're stalking and harassing her. I understand the motivation, but you really shouldn't do that, especially not to someone you used to care about.

What is it you're getting revenge for, anyway? She had a boyfriend, and she told you; that's what she's supposed to do. You don't say how long she waited to tell you -- a "very long time" could be a week or two, or it could be a year -- nor do you go into detail about how she acted with you before she told you, but even if she wasn't entirely kind in how she told you, she doesn't deserve your harassment for it.

If this is how you treat people you used to care about, I shudder to think how you treat others. Stop being awful.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  stalking is a bit over dramatic. it's the internet she put herself out there.
  
  i cared about her, but turned out she played me like a Kardiashian LOL
  
  i know what i did was pathetic, but it felt good in my own head 'im the protagonist' like that guy in 500 days of summer.
  
  thanks for the comment and your feedback. Do you ever get revenge on ex's?
  
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  - iin
    
    10 years ago
    
    It does sound a lot like stalking. I wouldn't say using the term is over dramatic. I'd say for your own health it does no good. Harassment is harassment and it's no good. Revenge ends up doing more harm than good for the person who tries to take matters into their own hands, it can't be called karma if you are doing it....let karma deal with the bad. If you are truely so upset about how she did you wrong, why didn't you man up and speak with her about it instead of harassing her online behind a screen? I don't know the whole story, but if other people also don't like her, just file her as someone you don't want to be associate yourself with and move on. In reply to 'whores need to be trolled', no they don't. I bet you don't know her whole story, and people who annoy others because they think it's funny simply need to find something more productive to do. Oh, and if it was so easy for her to forget about you, maybe you should contemplate why is it so hard for you to do the same? Was it possible you made it into something more than it was? Don't make the people who make you just an option, a priority. Just my two cents.
    
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  - Riddler
    
    10 years ago
    
    You are stalking her. No its not normal. Get a life man. You have way too much time on your hands. You cant get pissy every time a chick you like ends up being taken. She was taken respect it and MOVE ON!
    
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  - KaffeInjection
    
    10 years ago
    
    I love trolling, but.. Almost only do so when people start it off... Starting it yourself is kind of.. Sad
    
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  - ProseAthlete
    
    11 years ago
    
    I sometimes thought of getting revenge on exes, but as I was usually the one doing the exing, so to speak, I was generally more concerned with letting him down kindly. I haven't had exes in a while (I'm married), but yeah, I definitely thought of some very nasty vengeance on the few who were cruel to me.
    
    You know your situation better than we do, but I didn't get where this woman was cruel. Maybe she was, but it just seemed like someone you liked who wasn't fully free to like you back. That's not cruel; shallow, maybe, but not cruel.
    
    And yeah, I get that calling it stalking may seem a little dramatic, but "she broke my heart" is pretty over-dramatic, too. I'll revise my original advice from "stop being awful" to "stop being a mild, intermittent pain in the ass to her because karma will catch up with her eventually anyway." ;)
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      she needs to learn a lesson.
      
      but i stopped doing it now (got bored). .
      
      shes a waste of space (attention seeking, manipulative, abusive and a LIAR!)
      
      im sure im not the first guy.. or the last, but hopefully she will get whats coming to her
      
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Iiin

11 years ago

no its just funny

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  respect. whores need to be trolled
  
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RoseIsabella

11 years ago

I understand your frustration with her lack of transparency and the your motivation behind the trolling but you can't rush Karma along.

I would advise you to just forget about her as your revenge seeking might just be sowing bad Karma for yourself instead. There's a good chance that God and or the universe might have something much worse in store for her.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  i know where your coming from. But it's like she just forgot about me.
  
  even worst thought "i did nothing wrong"
  
  I hate seeing her happy **evil maniacal laughter**
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    11 years ago
    
    Of course you hate seeing her happy; she hurt you bad. But know this, what goes around comes around even if you never get the chance to see it and savor it. I gotta admit I want to see the people who have hurt me suffer. I can't blame you. "And you know this,man."
    
    Sorry, I couldn't resist a Smokey from the movie "Friday" Quote because I'm watching the news of the Boston Marathon Bombings and could use some good cheer. I hope and pray they catch the terrorists!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Amen to that sista. Do you think i should just forget about her?
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        10 years ago
        
        Right on. Yeah, I would definitely try to just forget about this chick. Try to avoid seeing and or thinking about her as much as possible. If you're just alone at home chillin and start obsessing about her try to distract yourself with something totally different. One of the best forms of distraction I would say is to find something to laugh at like a good movie or some silly ass shit on Comedy Central. If it's über hard for you not to think about then say to yourself, "just for today I won't think about this person." Of course this kinda thinking is a lot like a library book that you renew everyday. Also when I have to deal with this in my life I try to treat it like a chore I'm trying to procrastinate. I'll think to myself, "yeah that person was a jerk to me but I don't have to hate on em now so I'll do that tomorrow", and I just keep doing that until it's easier or I've kinda moved on naturally. Hang in there Bro, you can do it!
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        10 years ago
        
        Some solid advice from rose. **update** she dumped her boyfriend. and guess who the she called first.. HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
        
        I guess i win
        
        thanks rose
        
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shuggy-chan

11 years ago

She not really ur ex if u never dated, just a bitch, duh

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  hahaha that makes perfect sense. fuck dat hoe , cheers mate (Y)
  
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Avant-Garde

10 years ago

NO!

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tannah

10 years ago

No you crazy ass freak , she had a lucky escape from you !!!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  did this happen to you?. what goes around, comes around... im sure shes fine...
  
  she obviously trolled me to begin with, hiding the boyfriend (that's how i see it).
  
  thanks for commenting
  
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[Old Memory]

10 years ago

That wasn't nice! It's bullying. Calm down and forgive her. Forget about her and stay away from her (not ignore her completely) if you want nothing more to do with her.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  10 years ago
  
  FUCK HER.
  
  some people need to get bullied. if they are assholes ot begin with.
  
  I hope she cries herself to sleep, better yet -- loses all self confidence and gets involved with an abusive guy.
  
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Anonymous Post Author

10 years ago

I guess there are women here. who like to lead guys on, without any thinking about the consequence.

Sleep tight bitches.

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- Elliemental
  
  10 years ago
  
  So she's really hurt you and you want your revenge, if every fight was fought eye for an eye, the whole world would be blind. I've fallen for people before n known I couldn't be with them and have never spoken to them again as I didn't want to prolong the pain but I do think they would have preferred an explanation but scared it would lead them on.
  
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