Is it normal to grow apart from my husband..?

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Hello folks..im 26 and married, 7 years. 1st real relationship..at the age of 15 i was kicked out of my home. Left to be with him. Because of his age..he was 18. He took care of me from now on. Long story short. I had it ruff as a child. I was abused as a child multiple times. Well after 7years of abuse from him. Fighting me when he had drinks. I still stayed..he also had a 2month afair with a home recker that lives a street over from his mother. I still stayed..he now has suspicious info in his phone. I saw it with my own two eyes..he continues to denie it. Im over him i just need help because i have separation angziety also ocd..clean neat freak..i also offer him 3somes but he shows no action. Sex is ok but its just somthing fishy going on. He hates my family & i hate his. I have no friends and im always watching our kids I need help. Should i stay or leave??

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  • Arther.D
    11 years ago

    It's pretty obvious that you already know your situation is everything but normal. Sounds like you're not looking for a "seal of normality" but rather for a way to move along.

    All you have to do is to focus on yourself. Before thinking of growing apart of your guy, you have to figure out who you are and what you really want. You cannot be happy if you have to adapt yourself to whom you live with.

    There is no such thing as loving someone because you don't know anything else.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    You already realize you have problems, so most of the time you just ask one question to yourself. Will I be happier without him? But in your case, you have children, and also have to look for what is best for them! You are young enough to start over and provide for your family, but is it worth it? Would counseling not help, seek the easy alternatives first! Good luck with your choices

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Ideally you would start putting yourself together. An education. Job. Get some normal experience in your life.

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    • peoplechange#2r
      11 years ago

      Thanx for the feedback..

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  • Gravy
    11 years ago

    Help yourself sweetie. Make a plan, be brave and dump your sorry husband's arse. There is rod really good advice above. He you don't love the guy and stay because of to descend the unknown you are wasting you precious life. Your life is precious and you only love once, don't waste it.

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  • IRonMan78
    8 years ago

    It sounds like he is really controlling. Having no friends, it seems like he is keeping you isolated, so he is the only one who has access to you, That and there won't be any witnesses to the abuse. No one deserves to be abused in a relationship.

    It sounds like you are staying because you don't know any other kind of relationship. You may love him, but it sounds like he views you as a possession.

    Leave him and find someone that truly loves you for who you are.

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  • MysterionFrance
    11 years ago

    especially at this younger age it is normal

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Leave... Of course.

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    I am so sorry to hear of your situation. Is there somewhere you can go away from him, with your kids? Relatives?

    I am truly sorry I have no advice other than that already offered, but I do wish you well.

    Please let us know how you go on.

    Kind regards,

    Jon

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  • peoplechange#2r
    11 years ago

    Wow. That just somes it up. Thanx

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