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I go to a support center with different groups and issues. At the end of every Wednesday, there is a LGBT meeting. Anyone who goes to the center can attend any group they want, but since I'm not LGBT, I feel like I shouldn't be there, or something. I think the tropics are interesting,so I go sometimes. Is this normal?
LGBTQIZXKMJSWhatever meetings aren't your place. You may be straight and curious, but fun fact!
Doing that is gay!
You're there because you're curious. There is nothing wrong with that. You aren't protesting or causing a disruption. Maybe you have some sexual orientation questions you want answers to. Maybe your thinking about bi and want more info?
Sneaking into an LGBTQI group DOES have something wrong with it: it's disrespectful and potentially disruptive to the people the group was set up for.
OP doesn't mention any sexual orientation issues, only that h/she finds the topics discussed to be interesting and that's not a good enough reason to infiltrate a group not meant for him/her
There IS something wrong with OP crashing a meeting not meant for him/her and not being honest about his/her own sexual identity. It's intrusive and oppressive and I hope s/he gets found out and is made to leave and not come back
I don't see an issue. Would it be sufficient if the "outsider" to the LGBT group asked to speak to someone chairing or whatever, explained they were there to learn and to get some answers on their own sexuality.
An outsider should certainly speak to someone and ask permission to be there, and if permission is refused should leave politely. OP isn't there to get answers to his/her own sexuality, h/she's there because h/she finds the topics interesting, in which case h/she should start a non LGBTQI group to discuss them, not sneak into an LGBTQI group for his/her own selfish reasons
What better way for a person to learn anything is to observe and ask questions. Forming a group of straights to discuss LGBT issues makes no sense at all. Perhaps someone from the LGBT group could be invited to the discussion?
And maybe such a person would have better things to do with their time than satisfy the idle curiosity of straight people.
Don't you get it? It is disrespectful to sneak into a group set up specifically for a demographic of which you are not a member. Would you like it if people curious about your private life came into your home to observe you?
Assuming you're straight, how about some gay people did that while pretending to be straight?
That's a very wide generalisation: in my experience allies are only welcome if specifically invited and otherwise the group is for those who identify as LGBT, not for lazy voyeristic straight observers who can't be bothered starting their own groups to discuss topios of interest to them.
This is stupid. What if LGBT issues are the topic of interest to this person? How is it better that a bunch of straights are discussing LGBT issues without a single LGBT person present? That's like saying if men are interested in exploring feminism they should just talk amongst themselves with other men and never learn what the issues affecting women actually are. Utterly stupid.
If the group is FOR people of LGBT etc orientation, then that's who it's for, not for curious straights, especially as OP hasn't asked if it's ok for him/her to be there.
There's a place for women only groups and men only groups and LGBT only groups and straight only groups: people are entitled to get together with others they feel comfortable with without disrespectful people sneaking in and listening to them.
What's so "stupid" about that?
Haven't you heard?
We all must stay in our safe little bubbles these days.
Ellena.
You are the worst kind of human. Your whole life is based on the belief that people can be and identify as what they want, yet you're a massive fucking cunt. Go and fuck yourself. You're wrong.
I too think the tropics are interesting, and hope to someday vacation in a tropical destination before I die.
That's disrespectful and oppressive: if the topics at the meeting are interesting to you, start your own group for straight people to discuss them.
You're right, you shouldn't be there: LGBTQI people are entitled to their own space.
The straights seem to have a habit of wanting to be part of the LGBT scene. Not because they "support" it, they just want to go where people seem to be having fun.
Therefore, it is "normal" but still kind of annoying. Most of it is young, insecure females who are trying to find where they fit in.
I think I'd like to address a few things. Ellena,you mentioned safety. I'm not going to hurt anyone at these meetings. And,I'm not a voyeur. I tried giving some shaving tips, and tried to get in on a discussion about perfumes and colognes,but nobody seemed interested. Plus,I go to the center for several hours a day, and I don't like feeling like I have to avoid a certain meeting. And it's not like going into someone's home and observing them. These are meetings held in a semi-public setting.
Now they added P to the alphabet mix. P is for pedosexual. Look it up. If you thought LGBT was bad enough......