Is it normal to go through this?

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I’m 30 years old and I came out as gay in January. Since then I haven’t felt any relief and I am constantly talking about how I can’t live with being gay and the idea of two men being together is repulsive to me. I’m consumed with those thoughts and they’re interfering with my peace of mind. I really do not like the fact that I’m gay. My father doesn’t understand how I’m gay since I never slept with a man but I’ve been labeling myself as gay because of my attraction to men. However it’s an unwanted attraction. I have no peace of mind and every day feels like I’m living in turmoil. Help!

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  • Mammal-lover
    3 years ago

    thats a sex therapist question man.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    3 years ago

    You should go to a therapist instead of asking random people on the internet for advice.

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  • WaterOffADucksBack
    3 years ago

    You ever think your hatred towards gays might have to do with the way you were raised?
    There's nothing shameful or wrong about being gay, and the only way you'll ever be happy is to accept and love yourself as you are. Denying yourself of that not only hurts you but probably also affects others around you, since you say stuff like being repulsed by the idea of two men together can hurt other people with insecurities about their sexuality. You should work on your insecurity, preferably with a sex therapist.

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Specifically, seek out a sex therapist, and start a conversation on sexual identity. You may or may not be gay. There are several other things you might be. There's very few on this forum competent to talk about the range of possibilities, and issues involved.

    Most of my family thought I was gay, or at least celebrate (little did they know about my GF's) and I was the last person married out of 8 kids - by decades. Totally shocked several of them. Then they saw that my wife was beautiful as well...

    I wish you well with this,

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