Is it normal to go out with a man 37 years older than you?

Yuck O_O

Gold digger.

Normal? IMO definately not.

I'd say 20 years older is MAX, and only if you were in your 20s.

An 18 year old girl with a huge age difference though... that seems blah.

You are both consenting adults, & are not planning anything long term so why does it matter?

If you do start to plan long term, think a lot about it. That is not because it is inappropriate. It is because it is a huge age gap and difference in life stages that one can not simply deny away.

You will still be a young fertile woman, for example, even as he approaches the average age of mortality. You may want children, he may not. If you have children you could be changing his & your child's diapers, and will certainly be raising them on your own, with a feeble "gramps" around as dad, for as long as he's around at all.

And you will almost certainly be a widow quite early in life with many years left to live, alone.

Really think it through realistically, should you contemplate a long term union.

My sister her self has a relationship 28 years deference (she is 23 and partner is 51) she is really happy with him and decided to spend the rest of his life together with him! but ther are a few things you might have to give up because of that big age gap! Its up to you 2 if you whant to stay together! dont let anyone else get in to your personal life!

You're probably in need of some comfort and not a lot of pressure. He's secure unlike boys your age. Enjoy and don't let your emotions take over, to prevent you getting hurt when he leaves.

18. This man should be put down like the animal he is. If you were a few years younger, he'd still be slobbering over you, stroking his wrinkled shaft with his hand concealed in his anorak while offering you sweets at the school gate. 4/5 years is nothing to him. You are the 'teenage schoolgirl' he searches for on google.

Thanks for your comments.

iHatemF -- How can you tell if it's true love or puppy love after only a month and a half? We kind of decided when we first started dating that we would be breaking up when he went overseas, but as it stands now, if he offered to carry on seeing me or asked me to come with him or whatever, I don't know what I'd say. I'd be inclined to say yes. So at this point, I honestly don't know what sort of love it is.

Also, I've been out with people around my age, and it's never been like this. I always found them to be less mature than I am, and no one ever made me feel like he does. He's so special.

For the record, I don't think I have any father issues, and I don't think that's why I'm seeing this guy. My dad died when I was five (sorry, I forgot to mention that in my question, although it is quite important, psychologically, I suppose); I'm well over his death by now, and had many other male figures in my life growing up (like my step-father and my uncle and my older brothers), so I really don't think I'm just dating this guy for a "daddy replacement".

cockslinger -- Yes. We are.

Either you really like this guy or you're making him a illusion of your dad. Sort out your feelings, is it true love or puppy love? It might be better to actually go out with someone around your age. 37 is quite far apart and you have to think of all the consequences

You're legally an adult. If you're paying your own way who cares what anyone else thinks.

I couldn't do that I would feel like I'm dating my dad or my grandpa

I'm 19 and I had a 4 day fling with a 56 year old (also 37 yrs apart!) on vacation in my city. It was wonderful. We have so much in common and he is one of the most interesting men I've ever met. I'm going to fly to visit him in 3 weeks and he'll fly to my city again 2 weeks after that.

I can't really comment on how the long term potential of a relationship with such a big age difference. There are obvious complications. But if you both know that this isn't a long term thing, then that's not really an issue is it?

I have dated men my own age as well as older men and I absolutely believe that age is just a number. There are so many factors more important than age in determining compatibility between two people. If it was not for social convention I wouldn't even give a thought to age. But as it is, when I hold hands on the street with my 56 year old I make jokes about whether strangers think I'm an escort.

It's really nice to know that others have the same sort of relationship :)