Is it normal to go out to a bar by yourself when engaged?

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I love my fiance dearly, but I also love hanging out with my friends and enjoying my twenties. My friends in the past would invite me out to bars all the time and I'd come with, but now that I'm engaged, my fiance says he isn't comfort with me going out drinking anymore. That women who are engaged shouldn't go out to bars. Don't misunderstand, I'm not a party girl or a drunk, but once a month or so I like to cut loose a little. And me, I think its prefectly fine to go out and have a few drinks, but the couple people I did ask, say its strange. So is it normal for an engaged woman to go to the bar by herself/ with friends?

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Based on 60 votes (41 yes)
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  • Sidekickz
    12 years ago

    when engaged it doesnt mean you dont have an own life anymore! go on!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I'm married 20+ years and I go to the bar and club every single weekend without my husband and have never considered cheating on him. I go out for a laugh and a dance, nor do I wear a wedding ring!

    My husband often drops me off to meet lads he doesn't know. He knows that I have such a good home life that no-one would compare to him. However, if he had EVER told me what to do or what not to do - I would've dumped him instantly. We have a very successful marriage coz we realise that people stay coz they want to, and not coz someone 'owns' them.

    My hubby is 3 years older than me and was always very mature in his thinking. Quite often those under 25 are still little boys whose brains haven't even finished developing.

    If you're going to cheat, you're going to cheat.
    Just be very careful he's not a control freak.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Screw him, he sounds controlling as hell!! Talk to him, and go out and have fun!

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  • partofeveryone
    12 years ago

    Id say its normal, but try to see it from his side too. He only loves you, and doesnt want to risk losing you! Thats not to say hes justified, just something to mull over

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  • Brad07305
    12 years ago

    Now is the time to postpone the marriage if you can't get your needs ironed out. If you don't you'll be back here in two years asking for advice about how to get out of a marriage that is making you miserable.

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  • Britton
    12 years ago

    Every one of these polls about "is it ok if my boyfriend..." Gets comments that are 98% "he's a controlling asshole, break up" etc. You folks don't know the guy so you shouldn't assume anything.

    To the OP. Listen, its perfectly fine to want to go out but why is your boyfriend not allowed to go? So what if it's a girl's night...if you want him to be a part of everything in your life that is included. He has a good reason for questioning why you would want or need to go out with your girls when he isn't allowed. It's a little suspicious...does he ask to go out with the guys but not allow you to go? Marriage is about sacrifice AND trust. So maybe you are both in the wrong?

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      We are at different sides of the country at the moment. If he COULD come, I'd be more then happy for him to come. When he does come we go to the bar together no problem. Its just, he isn't here.

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