Is it normal to go months without talking to your signifigant other?

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Hello. I am a normal 20 year old. I work moat of the day and don't socialize with anyone besides customers and friends. I'm kinda shy, awkward, a videogamer, and I like anime. I don't know anyone else who has similar taste to mine besides my friends.
Anyways, there's this guy. I'll call him Chris. I've known Chris for seven-almost eight years. The only thing is we live on opposite sides of the country. I've dated him on and off a few times and it went well but recently things have changed. Now that we're both adults and have jobs we don't talk as much as we did when we were younger. I may just be selfish when I say I want to talk to him, but if I'm lucky I'll have a short convo with Chris once or twice a week through text, or a phone call for an hour about once every month or two. I really do like him, but I don't know if I can stand to be with him any longer.
I've struggled with depression, cutting, and anxiety since I was about thirteen or fourteen. He's helped me through a lot of things and is a good friend, but I don't know if I can put myself through this torture. There's been times when he says that we'll talk on the phone (like tonight) and we don't. I've gotten depressed because I was looking forward to talking and then getting my hopes torn to pieces. He always makes up excuses. Part of me thinks he's cheating, part thinks he doesn't like me, part is that he's just avoiding me.
What should I do?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Hardly the definition of a significant other, to me.

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  • FlamingHomo
    8 years ago

    I am too lazy to read this, but going off the title, you don't have a significant other, you just think you do.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Haha no end it now.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I think it's time to let him go.

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  • charli.m's_Menstual_Discomfort
    8 years ago

    He can just be a sex partner. That's OK.

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  • mypenisinyourmouth
    8 years ago

    Maybe you just think you love him. He helped you through stuff when you needed somebody and now your brain makes you think that you love him but actually you are just co-dependent.
    On the other side of the spectrum, the guy, whom I will call Paul because he sounds more like a Paul to me, is feeling that you are probably too needy or clingy or intrusive. He probably wants you to get the picture and just part ways.

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  • TheDentist
    8 years ago

    Yes. But be aware he's probably cheating on you with your sister.

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  • LittleGirlMeatHookSodomized
    8 years ago

    I can't figure out how two people can live on opposite sides of the country and NOT "cheat" or be boyfriend/girlfriend for that matter.

    I am a man and my need is sex. I need sex at least once a week generally.

    Oh I get it! It's like a sentimental romantic delusion? where the couple are together but both "cheat" in each other.

    Ahhhh after years wondering I finally figure it out. It's amazing how simple the answer is in plain sight... Thank you OP your post was very thought provoking

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  • GuitarHero1994
    8 years ago

    Eminem paid a girl to spread her ass apart for me then ignore me for 6 months because he's a "gangsta"

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